Messages By: lynlovel

If that was my daughter  a good Spanking first, then I would her to boot camp. Or if that don't work. Grandma will scary her to reality.

This kid needs stability and some serious consistant discipline but she's growing up in the most dysfunctional household I've ever seen. I agree, nothing NOTHING justifies the kids behavior. She's obviously manipulative. she was oh so sweet to the bishop in an attempt to make it all someone elses fault. Even then she slipped up. In describing what she thought would be reasonable rules for a girl her age when she mentioned allowing the boyfriend to sleep over as long as the bedroom door was left open and they were supervised. So in other words, she thinks someone should be willing to go without sleep, sit up all night and make sure she behaves? Oh Yes, the world revolves around her and if she wants something the world should bend over backward to see that she has it. . I've raised three kids and I may have pulled a few all nighters when the kids had a sleepover but I would never sit up to chaperone a boy that should be at home in his own bed being supervised by his own guardian. I missed hearing where he bio dad is but she should not be blaming everyone else because he's not in the picture. He's not there because of himself and it may be hard to admit to herself but she needs to face that fact, the sooner the better..

BUT this mother is so lazy that it's no wonder the kid is like this. She's let the girl get to this point because it's easier to say yes than no. Take every single thing away from this kid. No TV, no socializing, no new clothes NOTHING. If she doesn't come straight home after school call the cops. If she leaves the house, call the cops.  Let her earn all of those priviledges she never had to earn before. I'd give her one thing back as soon as possible so that I would have the leverage of taking it away again. Treat her like the bratty 2 year old that she acts like

I know where this mother is coming from that was on the show friday.  I have a 16yr-old step-son who has been diagnosed with:bipolar,adhd,ocd.  This child has made our lives pure h---.  At 16 he still pees the bed "because he doesn't want to get up and go during the night".  so therefore i bought him depends to wear to bed.  He threatens me(step-mom),his half brother(whom is 11).  He has made accusations towards me, my family, teachers and other individuals.  We have spent over $50,000 in doctors,therapists,medicines thats just in the last 2yrs.  we have been doing this doctor,therapist and medicine since he was 5yrs old.  My husband is in denial about his son.  My husbands family babies and protects this child and says he would never act like this.  He is now in a home for children he has been there since last january and he HAS NOT changed at all.  He is doing the same behavior there as he did at home.  My husband had an affair last september with a woman who "was just a friend for 20yrs) because he believed his son over me.  I was a wicked step-mom according to him and his family.  Let me remind you my husband drives truck and is never home to know what his son does.  and for his family his family never comes around to see what he does when there are people around this child does not aact like that because he doesnt want them to see his true colors.  There is no help in the state of nebraska for families who face these problems everyday with these children.  The cost of doctors,therapist,medicine is overwhelming.  I had to quit my job 3yrs ago to stay home because of this childs behavior.  And yet, there is another child in this home but he is pushed in the back by my husbands family because he is my son not mine and my husbands he is my child and therefore does not exist to them.

so before judging and degrating a person for doing something that is right for them get the story straight and give support instead of judging and degrating.  until you walk in the shoes of the parents of these children and go thru the h--- that we do yiu have no right judging and degrating.  And it really p-----/me off when the parents are always asked what did you do wrong or what could you have done differently.

when you spend every hour and every day trying to find support and options out there i do believe the parents are doing what they can.

My step-son has threatened me with a knife and my son.  He has my son so afraid of the dark, afraid of leaving my side because of the crap that he has said and done and threathened to do.

So dont judge and degrde a person for doing what needs to be done.

When I was in 2nd grade, I had a new teacher named Miss Seeley. I was a fairly shy and quiet little kid.  One day a girl wore a bracelet to school and it turned up missing.  Miss Seeley made us all stay after school till it was found.  This was a new experience and many were crying.  I saw the bracelet under the owner's desk in the back of the room.  Excitedly told the teacher thinking she'd be pleased, and she said: "I should have known it was you who took it".  I was devastated.  I am now 68 and was relating this story during a gathering of old classmates. Tears began pouring down one girl's face.  "I thought she hated me" she said.  This girl had gone out at lunch time and almost been hit by a car.  She came back to the room crying and scared, and Miss Seeley not only wouldn't comfort her, but wouldn't let any of the other students comfort her.  Another girl had transferred into the school from elsewhere and Miss Seeley made her sit at a desk out in the hall.  She also thought she was hated.   This info came out from just a small group of us.  We'll never know how many others thought she hated them too.  At one point after graduation, I worked in the office at the same school and was able to look at my grade school records.. All my marks were in the 90's except for that 2nd grade year when my marks were all in red and failing.  Not sure what happened to Miss Seeley, but hopefully she gave up the teaching profession before she scarred anymore little kids.