Quote From: vixiexFathers are more than a checkbook. I don't think he should have to pay if he isn't the biological father - especially since he's been lied to this whole time. HOWEVER, if he's raised this child and is the Dad that the child knows - I would assume there is love between the two of them. That relationship should continue.
Biology has less to do with parenthood than love, trust, teaching and caring that comes from that relationship. "Anyone can be a father - but it takes someone special to be a Dad"
Just my 2 cents.
I agree that we are much more than a cash cow for deceptive women. If we make a mistake and marry such a woman and take on the responsibilty of her children, no matter who she had as the father for each of them, it is our own fault and need to be the responsible person. However, if by trickery the man is caused to be responsible for a child that is not his then the cash drain needs to be stopped BUT if the bonding with the child has any merit he should continue to be emotionally responsible.
Even though I have no blood related grandchildren, I still have 12 grandchildren and 2 great grandchilden, that are mine in an emotional way as well as several more that claim me as their Pap, Poppy or grandpa.
For some of the children and grandchildren, I am the only father image they have or will have. This I don't mind as is a gift from God but the deception is very hard to forgive. Praise the Lord that he has forgiven a deceptive wife.
