Messages By: lizadams3500

Quote From: janbenpor

My comment is not on the topic of Body Dysmorphia, but the comment Diana's sister, Liz, made and Dr. Phil's harsh response.  The sister was concerned with the therapy Dr. Phil was offering.  She stated that in the past, Diana has a way of manipulating the therapists/psychologists into believing she is better and it seemed Dr. Phil interpreted that as Liz's negative support or in his words "already sabotaging her therapy.  He said to Liz  something about  "do you think this is their (the doctors/therapists) first time at the rodeo?"  Dr. Phil's response was totally off the mark and cold.  He responded in defense instead of understanding what Liz's concern truly was.  He was unprofessional and (I am almost positive, ask the sister) completely wrong. 

 

I feel strongly about this because I have seen it with my sister who manipulated her therapist.  She has done it with her alcohol counseling.  This is over 2 years and she is still a mess.  She's on her own now, though her children are suffering.

 

My brother-in-law (different sister) has done it with his psychiatrist for 10 months and did it at his $27,000/month resident alcohol treatment center he went to for 28 days.  I think he has a long way to fall before someone will help him properly.

 

My 14-year-old nephew has not manipulated his therapists/psychiatrists but has convinced them there is nothing wrong with him from his lack of talking.  Isn't there a professional who can get a quiet child to open up?  Apparently not, because his parents have taken him to 4 or 5 different professionals. 

 

It is very frustraing, when family members help all they can including the support of therapy and counseling by babysitting, driving, paying for sessions, finding referrals, etc. and then the therapy failing.  There is no where to turn when the therapists and doctors are not getting the entire picture.  I don't think that has to do with how many times they have been to the rodeo.  I think professionals only get the picture after there has been a suicide, a school shooting, a fatal drunk driving crash, a divorce, drug overdose, etc.

 

I know exactly what the sister meant by her comment.  She was in no way sabotaging her sister's recovery.  And I think what she wanted to hear from Dr. Phil was something reassuring.  I am sure she feels there is no hope and I am sure she cries for her sister all the time.

Quote From: nasale

 for her superior nasty attitude. She REALLY needs to walk in the shoes of someone who is going through this. I never had body dysmorphia but I know what it's like to have the self-loathing and hatred. This is a carbon copy of my life and I never got over the anger and resentment I felt for members of my extended family. There is no possible way that the surgeries are going to 'fix' something that is so deep -seated. It manifests itself in many ways but this is just the symptoms of how it surfaces. There is NO WAY no matter how she mouths the words that she even begins to understand her sister. If she did, she wouldn't be on her extremely high horse. There but for the grace of God, sister!!!!!!