Quote From: jules1965My husband and I have been swinging going on 5 years.
My family is aware of it as are my grown adult children, even my MOTHER.
I think what shocked my mother (think old school'what would the neighbors think?)
So I went to a popular swing site, typed in my zip code, put in a 50 mile radius and viola, up popped over 500 couples......there mom, that's what my neighbors think.
She was aghast of course that so many people were swinging, not that my husband and I swing.
The thing about swinging is, there must be 110% agreement between the couple if they are wanting to try this.
They must be 2000% committed to their MARRIAGE.
They must set clear and unbreakable RULES for swinging, any violation of the rules and the swinging ends or the marriage will.
Protect yourself at all times, from pregnancy, disease, weirdos.
Never go with strangers, always get to know the people first (phone, internet, safe place to meet for the 1st time)
Swinging has not harmed our marriage whatsoever. We've had 3 somes (MFM and FMF as well as couples MF/MF)
If swinging has done anything to our marriage it has strengthened it, we have more trust for each other, our sex life..........well......just RULES!
We are open with each other, no secrets, no lying, the trust is amazing!! If both of us don't agree to a situation 110%.......we leave, simple as that.
Nobody can enter our marriage, they may enter our bed but not our marriage. We are a team and will remain until death do us part.
Swinging is absolutely NOT for everyone.
No partner should feel threatened, forced, or guilted into doing anything they do not want to do!
The couple coming on the show where the wife doesnt want to do it but feels pressure from her husband and is scared he'll leave if she doesn't go along with him.......
Face it, there are much deeper problems than just if his 'needs' or 'wants' aren't met or she doesnt do what HE wants to do.
Some people are not into swinging nor ever will be. It isn't right for everyone. (though the numbers are so high that fact has room for argument!)
One thing swinging has given us is a much deeper understanding of each other, has enhanced a very wonderful sex life too.
Mind you, this isn't an everyday thing or we spend time cruising, we're part timers......if we find a nice couple fine, if not, fine too.
Its been a year since we swung but we move across country and have been busy....if the mood strikes we'll search for like minded adults and see where it goes......our lives are not consumed by swinging, only positively enhanced our marriage, IN and OUT of the bedroom.
I love how all the swingers say they completely "trust" their spouses. LOL!!! That isn't trust that is simply not caring.
Your spouse does not care that you want to screw someone else and you don't care that your spouse wants to screw someone else. You don't care a whole lot about each other.
Please...If you are a swinger and have been so for a long time and your spouse has turned very sick, handicapped, and needs your help to (get out of bed, wipe their hiny etc) speak up now.
I want to know how many swingers really grow old together. You guys aren't going to stick it out and be there in the golden years still swinging or even talking about your escapades while you swing the only way you can on a porch swing.
Where are all the swingers who are old? They are divorced, not with that person anymore. I don't think you guys who do this in your marriages love each other enough to be the person who is wiping the other's bottom when/if the time comes you have to do t hat. You don't care for each other that way.
