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November 19, 2007, 8:12 pm PST
IT CAN CHANGE!!!!!!!!
Quote From: ladyteal28I say a BIG NO to staying with a man who is a cheater. I am watching my best friend go through hell. She found out this summer that her husband of over 34 years has been cheating on her for years and years and years. He used ALL his vacation time for the year to go and meet women he met online. He is also a big time porn lover.
For years I have ignored his remarks about a 3some.... now I actualy hate this man. And the pain his wife and grown kids are going through breaks my heart. He even had the nerve to tell my best friend that he never really loved her..... I see a women who had worked all her life for her husband and how broken he has made her. I am always here for her and I tell her that all the time. I listen and give her a shoulder to cry on and tell her she was the best wife ever, and she was. He just lost the best thing in his life. They are now getting a divorce and selling their home that they both worked soooo hard to have. My B.F. has worked this one job for years and years and it is slowly taking everything out of her. She hs worked and worked tons of overtime just to keep their head about water while he just continues to add more and more debt with his endless spending, all for himself. He has opened more credit cards in his name and run them up too....now she is looking at going bankrupt...
To tell you the truth there isn't one man in the world worth giving up your heart too. I have been married for almost 40 years to a very cold, unaffectionate man....who I have BEGGED for us 'both' to get help. No he can't be bothered. He only cares about the kids, and grandkids and spends his retirement in either front of a t.v. or a computer screen. We retired to travel...and here we sit...day after day. How sad!
I would run the other way, if I knew then what I know now. Life is hard enough....without these selfish men.
I'll tell you this! I use to think the same thing. I was raised to think men are worthless and told that everyday and it is something I struggle with constantly to break that thought process, but it can change. It was only be the grace of God that everyone in my famiy has been divorced two times each, at least and I have been married over ten years. With Christ, all things are possible. There is a God who knows your pain and sorrow and heartache and wants to bless you and can change your husband. My husband was the coldest, meanest and most vicious person I have ever met, he use to cuss me out and call me names, was physically abusive and it has been way over a year and although we have our disagreements, he would never curse at me, he is loving, affectionate, takes care of our children, does basically anything I ask him to and even when I don't ask he'll run to the store and grab me a Starbucks, cook dinner, watch our children, and goes to church faithfully while bringing his bible and studying it, attending church marriage seminars, etc. I owe it all to the Lord, who is good and faithful to keep his promises. I didn't understand all the suffering then, I am thankful for it now. I can now help others and tell them my story. I don't care how long you have been married, God can change any circumstance.
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