Messages By: eday1987

I have a friend that I have known for a long time, we are both married with husbands and children.  We are both the same age married for the same number of years and funny enough married in the same month.  We used to be employed at the same place before but we have now gone are separate  ways.  Over the years we had become extremely good friends and we just could not go a day with seeing each other. Now that we are apart, we see each other occasionally but we do not visit often like we used to.  The problem is that  now she is working in another company and has made friends with another person and It seems to me that I get really angry when  I hear this other person's name being brought up in our conversations and she seems to do the same thing when she hears me talk of another person.  Is this a streak of jealousy just because this other person is taking what once used to be my place ?  or is this something natural?  I sometimes feel that by not seeing her and cutting her off completely would be better, so I would be spared the pain.

Hi all,

I think I'm depressed, have been for a long time now.  The history is long, my mother was very mentally abusive and mentally ill, father couldn't cope and started to drink. We had money and perhaps I was spoiled in other ways, but I always was my moms therapist and keeper. She yelled, screamed and tried to kill my father on several occasions. In public she told lies about us. She made several suicide attempts to keep us in line(and telling us so)

In school I was tortured by my classmates. Both parents died in short succcession under weird circumstances when i finally fled the nest at an age I should have long gone. Several years have passed. my life has changed for the better. Many of my dreams have come true.  Still I cannot be happy about that. There is always the nagging fear of betrayal (my spouse has done so before), My old interests don't interest me anymore, I cannot be at home for a long time without getting extremely antsy, I'm always afraid of catastrophe in my life,nothing makes me happy anymore, I blow up easily and have no self-esteem., always think nobody loves or likes me and that I'm stupid.

How long does baggage from youth stick with a person?  My husband says I'm constantly playing old videos in my head and just have "to decide" to "just live".  Is that so easy? How does one do that? I'm afraid to take medication. I don't want to get dependent and I don't want to live in a fog. Are other people "happy"? Is there such a thing? Am I just an idiot and blowing things out of proportion?

I once had a friend that I loved very much. Knew her for three years and we were very close.  I treated  her like family. We had grown apart due to circumstances of her being cruel. I stop doing a lot. One night out of the blue she called me at three in the morning that the cops had taken away her keys and to go and get her. I got up and went, when I got there she and her new boyfirend which I had never met were drunk. She got in car and wanted me to go to police station to get her keys for her. We were both 30 at the time. I decided I could not do that in the condition she was in, so I got on the freeway to take her home to her parents where she still lived. She open the door at sixty miles and hour and was telling me she'd jump if I did not stop the car. I had to stop so i pulled over and she got out. She crossed all six lanes of freeway drunk and I call her parents and let them know what was going on. They finally showed up and she told them that I threw her out of my car. That day was the last I talked to her till two days later. My mom and her mother talked, her dad said it be best if we stay away from each other. After that I waited several months to contact her mother to see how she was doing, her mother said that about a month later she ended up in the hospital for three days and did not change. After that she took off with some guys and within four months or five got married and pregnant. This all happened within a six month period after that night.From time to time I see her and her friends, they all hate me. The turn their face at me. This happened a year an a half ago. I havent seemed to been able to forget, I was a good friend yet to them I am the worst person in the world. Just the other day one of her friends, who treated me badly when I called to find out about my friend, sat next to me at a college presentation and told me to talk to them. I am not hatefull so I did. As soon as she told me about my friend, I told her that I did not want to hear about her and wished her the best.

Truthfully, I have never gotten over this situation and feel very depressed. What did I do that was so wrong to deserve to be shut out of her life forever and for her friends to have treated me so badly.

Hi there everyone.

I'm a 19 year old girl, currently living alone in an apartment while attending college. I'm very lucky to have parents who not only started a college fund for me when I was born, but also will pay for my apartment while I'm in college.

Last year I lived in the dorms, but I was miserable. I paid for them with a scholarship I recieved for good grade. I want to start paying for my apartment by myself, but in order to do that, I'd need a room mate because I can't afford rent on minimum wage, and because of school, it will be hard to work full time, let alone two jobs. My best friend was going to move in with me, but lately, I've realized that she's not a very good friend.

She's always asking me to pay for things, and she's never greatful for the things I do for her. She's jealous, and hates when I hang out with other people or my boyfriend, yet she'll leave me alone to hang out with her friends without a second thought. . She acts as though she's entitled to everything, and pitches a fit when I don't do everything exactly how she wants, even though she never pays for anything, never drives anywhere, and doesn't even say thank you.

I don't know how to deal with it.

I was spoiled by my parents, but they taught me that the things they give me are gifts, and to appreciate these things. I don't take them for granted, because I know I've done nothing to deserve this, and that I should be greatful. Which I am. I do my best to make my parents proud of me, and to make sure they know how much I appreciate their kindness.

But my friend doesn't treat her parents with respect, and she certainly doesn't treat me with respect. She's 18, and she tries to bring alcohol over, or to get my boyfriend to buy it for her, even though i've told her she can't do that here.

Anyway, the main problem is that I don't have a lot of friends, and the ones I do have are already paired off for apartments. I feel like such a mooch because my parents pay for everything for me right now, and my mom refuses to take money from me as rent. She says that she likes being able to provide for me. But I feel like one of the best ways to show them that I appreciate them would be to start paying my own way.

But I don't have anyone else to move in with me.

Should I just put up with her nasty behaviour, so that I can have a roommate? I know that it will make me miserable, but I feel like I owe my parents so much for everything they've done. And I would rather live with someone I trust (even though she's mean.) than a stranger who's habits I'm not aware of.

Any advice?