Messages By: loraanngant

Quote From: sign4him

I'm 38 and lost my first baby at 9 wks and that was 16 yrs ago and still haven't been able to get pregnant.  I do resent some women who haven't had kids and don't care to have any say what is the big deal.  It is a big deal to those of us who want to hold that newborn baby in our arms.  I have PCOS which was discovered in 1995 but with insurance costs so high and not paying for fertility drugs, the emotional battle is a high one.  The frustration lies with going to the clinic which is at least an 1 1/2 hrs drive from home just for them to say you're not fertile yet, come back in about 5 days and check again, again, again.  I haven't even used protection and didn't get pregnant.  Unlike some women they pop 'em out by the dozen.  I  would be happy to have one baby and then adopt if wanted more and couldn't.  The stress from the whole ordeal causes you not to become fertile - so how do we go to the Dr and do everything we are told to do and still not pregnant - I would like to know.  My heart goes out to other women who are having problems also but who will help us?????

Quote From: rvgrandma

 I agree - there are many health problems that we have an increased risk to because of what PCOS does to our bodies. I personally suffer from obesity. Because most all doctors I go to have never heard of PCOS, they will not accept that loosing weight is more difficult than normal. I have considered going to an endocrinologist for medicine but my glucose is fine (although I have not had that extensive fasting test they do now). Ovarian cysts is the main cause for not getting pregnant. The lining around the ovary is too thick for the egg to break through resulting in cysts and infertility. This problem was the purpose in the old common 'wedge resection' they did.

Besides the increased risk of ovarian cancer - which the surgery is suppose to lower??- there is the symptoms of PCOS you mentions: obesity, heart disease, hypertension, diabetes due to insulin resistance. Lets not forget the increase risk of some diseases due to never being pregnant: breast cancer, uterine cancer, cervical cancer and ovarian cancer.

Just with the medical aspects of PCOS, I wonder why even bother with yearly test when I have such a greater risk for them? I haven't been able to loose weight (I was thin when I went through infertility treatmet in the 70s) but I watch what I eat, take my herbals supplements, vitamins and anti-oxidants hoping this will be enough so I don't get any of these other diseases.

Quote From: mthrftw

 My idea is to contact your state's dept of children and families.  There are programs where you can do foster to adopt and the expenses are minimal.  I know of a single woman that I used to work with that is doing that and within a few months had a baby girl and a few months after that she got another baby and a toddler.  I don't know how she's doing it on her own with three little babies... But anyhow, with foster to adopt the risk is higher that the birthparent's rights may not be severed for quite a while and/or you may not get the child in the end.  If that is a risk you are willing to take then you can get online and start researching your state and the programs that they offer.  Also, with regular adoption you can also get adoption loans and pay them off when you do your tax returns from the government.  It may take several years to get back what you put into it, but you could check into that.  There are also adoption grants from different organizations that you can apply for.  Check into that too.  My husband and I did a spaghetti dinner and silent auction fundraiser to help with some of our adoption expenses.  There is a lot of information on the internet and a social worker can help too.  Good luck!