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December 5, 2007, 3:45 pm PST
What about the wife?
All you talked about was about his cheating and his problems but what about her? He said that he used force to restrain her from hitting him. Yes, a man should never hit a woman but a woman should never hit a man. Violence from either party is not acceptable. Why did you not turn to her and ask her why she was hitting him? Also you never questioned her about her infidelity in the marriage. Both of them were too young to get married and both do not understand what it takes to be in a marriage, they both need counseling. In my opinion she was just playing the hurt victim and got all the support of the audience and of you and the minister. The husband spoke of having to work 3 jobs at times to support his family and she did none of the housework. I'm sorry, if you want him to play the 1950's role of how a husband should be then she needed to play the 1950's role of being the good little housewife. Pregnant or not if you are at home all day with the kid(s) you should have time to do a couple of loads of laundry and clean the dishes and the house. If he was at work all of the time then he should have been able to come home to a clean house and dinner on the table. My neighbor has 5 children now and she stays at home and her husband works all day and he comes home to find the yard mowed, she did this while pregnant with her last 2 and in the Houston heat and humidity, the laundry cleaned, dinner in the oven and the children doing their home work. Both need to be blamed for the break down of their marriage. A marriage requires teamwork and it did sound like that she just wants to be taken care of and not do anything. You just were not listing to what he was really saying, it sounded to me at times that he was tired form working all day long and then to come home to have to do all of the house work too. I do know that being a stay at home mom is hard work and is considered a full time job, but it is not just playing with the kids all day long, it means there is housework to be done also, that’s a part of the job. You told her that she should not go back to him at this time and I agree, they need very intensive counceling in order to work thru their problems on both sides of the marriage, also what about the kids, he has not seen them in 6 months is this fair to them. They both have a lot of growing up to do and at 24 they are not even close to where they should be for their age.
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