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December 18, 2007, 4:09 pm PST

Dangerous mothers, not daughters

It is heartbreaking to see two mothers in a row in the program, where the mothers are in severe denial. First one is a drug addict herself, then claims she never saw it coming and never suspected anything although her daughter started drinking at age 14, etc.   The second mother blames her daughter's friend for the murderous attack on the father, although her daughter had perpetrated several murderous attacks since she was 2 years old.  Very sad indeed, that a parent is so much in denial that she can block out of memory the past attacks and smooth them over, and now refuses to accept the fact of having closed her eyes to the attacks in the past, and still at this point is continuing the same by blaming the daughter's friend.  I am surprised that Dr. Phil did not latch on to the mothers' cases, but perhaps the focal point was to help the daughters recover a path to normalcy - both of these mothers are beyond help as they have bastioned themselves into the belief that they had nothing to do with what happened to their daughters. My opinion as a plain viewer, not a medical or mental health professional.

 

 

 
December 18, 2007, 5:45 pm PST

12/18 Dangerous Daughters

Quote From: newyorker50

My daughter is an addict, and I certainly didn't cause that, and I am NOT in denial.  I did NOT see evidence

of drug use when she was 14 or 15, yet she tells me now that she was using even back then.  As soon as I became aware of the truth (she was then 16), I did everything I could think of to do, learned, and read, and consulted specialists, sent her away, moved to a new state, did an intervention, and more.  I didn't cause my daughter's addiction, and neither did today's guest.  Do you think YOU really have the power to 'drive someone to drink"?  (or drug??)

I am sorry about your daughter.  I am sorry if you thought I meant the mothers CAUSED the problems.  I have no way of knowing and in fact, I don't think they did (well, by example perhaps in the first mother's case).  Most parents,  just like you, do everything they can to love their children, watch out for them, set a good example, identify problems, and help them when problems occur.  I was speaking of the two mothers who were on the show.  For one reason or another they refused to see their daugher was in trouble and they didn't appropriately address the problems earlier.  The drug addict mother was probably too much out of it herself all through the years, and the other too much in shock to face reality that her daughter could be a killer.  Again, just my impression, based on watching the show.
 
March 12, 2008, 10:26 am PDT

I don't believe it

When I fly, I fly exclusively on Southwest (about twelve or more roundtrips per year for last several years).  My impression of Southwest as a company is sheer admiration [they manage to post a plus while having lowest fares on the market, when other airlines go under], and my experiences with their employees are great: professional, cheerful, relaxed, courteous, knolwedgeable and friendly.  Based on my experiences, I am ready to flatly not believe that their appearanve had nothing to do with the reason they were denied boarding or banned from using Southwest.  If loud cussing and aggressive behavior toward staff or fellow passengers was involved, then that is a valid reason and the girls have nobody but themselves to blame for it.  I hope Southwest representative is heard in the Dr.Phil show when it airs in my area on Friday this week.  Pretty sure that will be the case, Dr, Phil has the reputation of being fair and unbiased in discussing problems.

 

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