Messages By: robin457

most girls grow up to believe that they will have a storybook wedding. let's face it ..a lot of us don't. my father died when i was 21. i never really knew my father. i got married the first time at a justice of the peace. it didn't last. the second was at a church with just my husbands brother and sister and their spouses. my second marriage has had its ups and downs but it is by far my best marriage.

when the woman started down the isle and saw her future husband drunk, she should have ran, not walked to the nearest exit and not looked back. for someone to be that insensitive to their own wedding says a lot about their character. and his buddies would have to go. if they have that much influence over what he does, what else will they talk him into. he says he instigated it. i don't buy it. if that is a predictor of their future, then i would come to the conclusion that it is sunk.

weddings aren't silly. it is the people who enter into the marriage that are silly. when they enter into a marriage they should be aware of who they are going to be living with. what kind of person is this.

if my husband had shown up drunk for the wedding, their wouldn't have been one. I don't care if the pope is sitting in the audience. to have no respect for the feelings of his future wife. Well, let's just say that dad should have left him where he laid. and then go tell the bride and let her chose to have him swerving on stage or leave him in the yard. which, i would have left him in the yard. he knew what he was doing. he didn't care how it looked. and its not the wedding planning and all the glitter that makes us march down the isle. we go down the isle to show that we are together, for better or worse, sickness and in health, till death us part. not show up drunk and pay for it for the next fifty years.

marriage is hard enough without both parties putting in it together. but to begin your marriage incapable of standing up because you are sloshed to the gills is reprehensible.

my ex-husband raped our 12 year old daugher, and his sisters 11 year old daughter. i have lived with the problems that these perverts inflict on other people because they are weak. they don't have the kahoonas to deal with an adult they get their kicks violating weaker people. thats what makes them feel good.

anyone that doesn't have enough respect about themselves to keep thier clothes on deserves to be arrested. flashing people ,usally a man in a raincoat at night when thier is hardly anyone around is sick. you dont need a phd to realize that these are sick people who like to make kids thier victims. they want to humiliate thier victims it feels good to them. they all need to be locked in a room with a hundred mothers with some cooking utelsils. we are soft on criminals (ohhh poor baby, you have rights you know) a bunch of do gooders with more time on thier hands than a clock maker, get on thier high horse, they dont' think about the victims unless it happens to thier child or niece or nephew. get real. what these perverts need to do is get taken out . nothing less would work. they always come back. they are like a disease they just keep spreading. i agree that sometimes people are convicted that didn;t commit a crime. but it is rare. how would you like to have someone in your family tormented by the results of a preditor. wake up.

I seem to remember Mrs. Clinton going berserk on Tammy Wynette for making the song. Stand by your man. shortly after that tirade. she stood meekly beside Bill as he confessed that he had indeed had sexual relations with that woman. I think instead of New Yorks governors wife standing by him, she should have had an old iron skillet in her hand and when the cameras started clicking she should fried his hot dog, right their for the nation to see. I would vote for her to be president if she would have done it. its time we start standing up and not take prisoners when it comes to how we let men treat us.

it is terribly hard to accept that someone you love humiliates you when they take another lover, but, to have it aired on national television must be devastating. I hope that she finds the strength  to move on. Clearly, he wasn't thinking of his wife and children and what this would do to them. I hope his doggy shrivels up and not even air jordan can get it up. it would serve him right.

we recently saw on the news that a school teacher left her child in the car and it died. the baby sat in the car seat for 9 hours. then last year a vice principle of a well to do school left her child in the car. she even went outside to move her car closer to the school so she could get the doughnuts from the back of her suv. then she got back in and moved her car again. i hate to say this. both women were not charged. i am sorry but i raised five children and i never left them in the car for anything. i was always afraid that they would knock it out of gear or anything. i don't see how anyone can forget thier kid. i don't care how busy you are. if you can remember the doughnuts you can remember the kid. anyone else had done this they would have been prosecuted ..hung out to dry..i am sorry that thier children died. but, i cant see how they could forget.

my mother is 80.  I have 5 bio-racial children. well they are mostly grown now. at first she disowned me.

i tried to keep the lines of communication open. but, what can i say. sometimes i get really bitter about the way she treated me and my children. my oldest daughter had a baby that was premature. it held on to life for 2 months and died. I was devasted. my family never came to the service. we had a bad snow that year.

i am not close to my side of the family at all. i keep in contact sometimes but i still have that resentment that will follow me to my grave. i was born in the late 50's and i grew up watching the violence towards blacks. i was appalled. hurt, angry ...i had found that i was more easily accepted in the black community that the blacks were accepted in the whites. however, i have heard the race card played when it is convieniant. i don't feel i am responsible for what someones ancestors do. i just do my part. if you treat me right. i will treat you right. i want the same respect that you want. your grandchild is lucky to have you for a grandparent. not all children are so lucky to have someone love them because they are who they are.

good luck in the world. i wish you the best.

this controversy has been going on since i was growing up. it has been quite awhile since thier were slaves. i was not a part of it. i am over 50. i remember what i saw on tv. it was appalling. however. i haven't done anything wrong. my children are bi-racial. i am white thier dad is black. i have seen both sides of the street. i have lived it. my husband would come in and talk about honkeys and crackers. i would remind him that i am white. if you leave the color out of the conversation because it has no place in it. then no one would think that you were talking about a black person or a white one. i am not responsible for the past. i am responsible for today. if everyone including both white and black were to leave the color out of the conversation and move on we could move past it.