Messages By: troutl08

The main reason as that the mom and son do not have any respect for each other.  The mother seems so resentful to her son.  In many ways his actions mirror the behavior his family has showed.  The mother never once showed any affection towards her child.  It will be interesting to see a follow-up to see if they can fix the situation.  I would like to know where the biological father to the child is and this might be part of the issue for the son.

I hope to see a much happier family.

not to defend anyone but I'm sure it is hard to have your child grow up and leave.  I can see from both sides.  She obviously feels completely rejected.  I wonder how common it is when parents do not accept their child's spouse's ever and guns and gravemakers are not the weapons; but mean and hurtful statements are the guns and gravemarkers.

At first I felt that way, too, that the Mom was taking this all too lightly.  However, I think that once her daughter in away and getting treatment it will be easier to focus on herself.  The denial is obvious as well as a contributor to the overall seriousness of the situation that Stephanie is in.  There was just something distrubing to me about the whole situation.  We also don't really know the history of the father beyond the segement.  Does he have an addiction too?  Addiction can run in the family.  I think the story left me hanging. 

There is so much more to the story that leaves unanswered questions. I hope it ends well for Stephanie and that she got to rehab soon enough.

made me mad because I think what is missing from these children is some accountability.  Repect for themselves and others are parenting core values. These children need to take responsibilty for the negative behavior knowin there are real  consequences.

These children are too old for time out!  They need to have punishments that fit the situation. Work extra around the house.  Yard work for a week.  Community service for a day or  a week such as work at the nursing home for a week or food pantry even help a senior in the area.  Much better than spanking, hitting and yelling. 

Ethan need to get up for school by himself.  His parents need to change the routine to allow Ethan to get up and ready.  By working with his school and teacher I'm sure that things can change

Plus the parents need to stop boo hooing and get up a do some thing for their children.

Finally, Noah, should go to bearevement center just for kids.  I volunteer for such a place and it would help him in so many ways.  Wendy and Noah can stop abusing each other. Noah need to heal his pain from losing his sister.

-Fred Rogers

Dr Phil and his foundation do remarkable work. It is wonderful to see the different ways that children are benefiting from his work.  

Thank you for all that you do to better the children, parents and their families. Each is an act that helps to give children a chance.

... it amazing how many people rely on so many things.  Our culture is a "me first" mentality and it has now effected the whole country.  We need to start looking out for others.  Financial crisis is way to evaluate exactly what a person thinks in important to them.  At times, I have had a lot of money and other times not enough, I was often happier when I had a little less. 

It is very sad. We need to come together and change our ways!

The show was a good perspective and I enjoyed T. D. Jakes comments.  I am a Christian and find that many people have subscribed to the woe is me attitude.  The fact that there are tough times means that people need to be resourceful.  The statement that the first gentleman made about a foolish financial decision is I think a common element in the crisis.  The reality is many foolish descisions can impact in marriages in many ways.  I choose to see the glass as 1/2 full not 1/2 empty not blame them but accept the consequences and find a solution. 

As for the second couple, it may not be possbile now to find a great job.  The job market continues to be very weak, instead the husband can do his part and become the home executive!  They have young children and it is important to provide a place of stability for them.  He can run the home and be there as a support for his wife who is working in a tough world right now.

You have said in the past about the soft place....perhaps these husbands could provide the support that their wives really need from them and be their partners.

Liz

in Pennsylvania

the lack of interest on the part of the VA really bothered me!  And seems to me to be at the root of the problem.  The administration of the VA needs to get with it.  Instead of always being behind and get the agency an overhaul.  Hopefully with a new administration this agency can be one of the first to be overhauled.    These Americans deserve better!