Messages By: samalie

Well, I'm just writing to share my opinion with the others on here. No matter how old I am... I'm just gonna say away everything I have about this.

I think that young parents aren't really bad, but they can't make the right decision, and I guess it could be all the time, because when a girl or a guy gets to be a parent at the age of 16 (for example), they will be disappointing parents, because they are still teens.

I'm not a very religious person, I  love my God and try to obey him in my own ways and actions. So I think that most of the teens have sex, do drugs, drink, or accept being in the wrong group because of not being well-taught. In my opinion, I think that parents should tell their teens or children - in general- about sex and about the adolescence. They should tell them that in this period or level of life many changes will happen in their body & mind. They should also tell them and encourge them to be strong, and sensible.

Everybody thinks of sex or "having sex" not only  the teens. But because the adolescence is the most dangerous period in a man's life, teens should know how to resist and stand strong for such thoughts or actions! Their parents should tell them that (to stand strong and stuff....) when they feel that their son/daughter is grown enough to know or to think or to commit such things. What they should tell their son / daughter is to be strong, and to let them know that there's no stupidity on earth. Everyone can make their right decision when they have a strong will. Telling your teen he /she is smart, good-looking, with a strong will, can support them resist the bad inclination and get rid of them. In our western society, we rarely tell our teens or children when they are old enough to think about having sex or something, about God! You can change your teen in one sitting (or meeting) about God. You should also fear them! Because it's reality, that everyone is going to die some day and everyone is going to take what they deserve. Which is the Punishment of God. Life is sweet and we should enjoy every moment; I totally agree with that, but we shouldn't forget about our Lord, and we should set to everything red lines.  

I just think that every parent should be careful with their teen, and discuss them with the topics they are willing to know about. Keep telling your teen about theit talents (everyone has a talent, no matter what it is. No one is without any talent), having a "completed" conscience, and how worth it is to have a good conscience!

Good luck everyone.

Thanks. 

Yes, I agree with you.

Yeah, it doesn't always work when you use religion to make your teen avoid the bad stuff, because the world is full of atheists, but it can be useful somehow. Well, I'm not saying that getting closer to God is the only way to protect your teen. There are so many other ways. To me, the most important is to tell your teen how important they are to you, and how important she / he is to the society they are in, how human has the power & the ability to do whatever they want, and of course, when they have a strong will.

Parents should be open with their teen, that's right, but they should also talk to them about future, not only about sex. When you talk to your teen about getting a successful future, I'm sure they will somewhat start to forget about sex and such stuff. Because everyone, especially teens, loves to be rich, beloved, famous, and respected by people.

Adolescence is a level of life when your child is supposed to build their adulthood, it may be built on strong stones, that can never break down, and it may be built on fake and weak stones, which can get detroyed very simple. So, you should try to raise your child or teen on being a bit serious and sensible, and that sex, drugs are vacious inclinations that the devil is trying to make him / her apply in their life. So, if your teen's life is set upon those vacious inclinations, weakness and obedience to them, it will be ruined as soon as this teen turns into an adult. So we should teach our teen how to stand strong, and how to push them far away. As I said before, there's nothing more sweet than having a good conscience!

When you tell your teen how sucessful they can be in the future, if they work hard and avoid the bad habits, they will keep thinking about this point; because teens are usually moody...

I think that a teen is like a small kid, so we all should treat them just like small kids.

Thanks.

Hey everyone,

This is really creepy... Well, I think I need everyone's advice on this...

I've been playing an online game for about 3 years and I have lots of friends there...

I accepted giving my email to one of them whom I've always trusted... (We used to be boyfriend/girlfriend like 2 years ago but now we're just friends, and he has been on my Facebook list for about 4 months.)

I added him to my Facebook list and saw many pics of him and he saw some pics of myself as well...

I mean, he seems a fine person and he never did or said anything to hurt me... I just think he is trustworthy, but all of these stories about the net makes me sick.... :s

So, what should I do? Should I just remove him or not?

Share your opinion frankly, please!

No, I'm not planning any affair, of course. And I'm only 16... He is really good and very respectful... He never said anything to hurt me, but he never stops his tries to make me jealous or crazy... Actually, I'm just afraid for my pictures........... What do you think?

And thanks a lot for your help! :)

Yeah, you're right... But in fact, I'm only afraid for my pictures there... Well, he really seems a fine guy. He never said anything to hurt me, but he never stops trying to make me jealous or whatever, and this is the second message I've sent so far today... And thanks a lot for your help. :)

A couple of months ago, I found out that he wasn't even putting his real name.............

What do you think? About my pictures thing? :)

And very sorry for the late reply, it's just that I used to check frequently but I found no response, but I just checked and found from you and some other good persons. :)

You're totally right and I of course agree... Katherine isn't a teen anymore.. she is 18 and she knows what's right & what's wrong.. her parents should leave her and they'll see that, someday, she'll die just to get back to her house. I am a Christian Arab and I know the people here. Most of the them don't respect their wives, well, disrecpect is found eveywhere, but it's more often here. And if she marries him, he may force her to become a Muslim or to cover her hair, so she will look horrible. On the other hand, I heard that Abdullah does not respect her or her family, so, just ask a kid this question and he'll answer the correct one: "What do you expect this person to be? This person who cursed at her and her family?" So I think she must have known the answer, she will regret it a lot... But not to be unjust, there are some Muslim Arabs here who really treat their women nicely, but Abdullah doesn't seem to be that type pf person... So Katherine, I really advise you and all the girls who have done similar to this or who are about to do it, to move back and stay home... Don't ruin your life and get yourself a bad reputation. Actually I call this "Adolescence madness". She was 16 years old when she did this, which means she was a teen, but a 16 year-old girl/boy is still mature or well-grown, in this gae of technology, especially. There's still a lot to say, take this from me, Muslim men can divorce their women from a one single word, which is: "Inti Taleg."  So if he utters that word to her, in their religion, she is a divorced woman and she'll have to find somewhere else... Also, you guys don't know how Muslims here think about the Christians, especially that she is an American, he'll keep trying bringing her down, and you can't imgaine how bad Abdullah's parents can be to this crazy girl, they will all despise her for leaving her parents and coming for some guy...

I got a similar story that my mom shared with me:

My mom used to work as an Arabic teacher in some public school, she, of course, had many friends from female teachers, and one of those teachers did the same! She married a Muslim man, who forced her to become a Muslim and to cover her hair and her body with something called "Al-Jilbab" it's like a cloak. Anyway, she's now married to him and they have two daughters. This woman is now very poor, she doesn't have an oven! Her husband is very mean to her and keeps calling her: "You're a wh*** Christian, you're the unpure woman who sold herself to me and left her family, bad Christian!." Besides that he sometimes hit her, and this woman's mother died, but why? Because of what her daughter had done... which means, she now has done two sins, changing her religion and leaving Jesus, and killing her mother, and I think it should be considered as "on purpose" because she knew how sad and mad the whole family would be... So one day, after she had run away with him, she came back to the school which she used to work at with my mother, but once she entered the teachers' room, all of the Christian teachers kicked her out of the room.. Which means, she is low now, she has no place to go to, and she is very sorry and she wishes she didn't do it.. but after what? After 20 years of their "fake" marriage?

So finally, I really hope this Katherine girl gets her head back... I promise I will pray for her and for everyone...

Thanks! :)

Hello everyone,

Well, yeah, the Internet can be really dangerous for pictures and such stuff, but I myself have a Facebook and a MySpace account. I got a lot of pictures there (especially on Facebook) but both of the accounts are set to private, and therefore only my friends and relatives can take a look at them.

But this is really confusing... before I put any picture, I thought about it and asked adult people, yeah lol, I did. They said nothing would be wrong as long as I was putting very decent pictures and they were private.

So what now? This is really scary... there are millions of people who use Facebook and MySpace.

I am 16  by the way and again, this is just confusing and I'm very confused. I am type of person who likes to chat with people online (especially the American ones :D) so I sometimes have to add them on my Facebook or MySpace (after making sure that they are fine ones). So what do you guys think? Should I just take my pictures away?

--Thanks! :)

You're totally right and thanks for replying back to me. :)

Hmm.. my last name is the most common here in Jordan, so it doesn't really matter.. and my parents and both of my older brothers know that I have a Facebook and a MySpace and they don't mind because they trust me. :) so, I take this as u think that it would be all right if I kept them on? :D

Oh, lol, it's the same with every kid.. I sometimes do not listen to my mom... :P

But yeah, actually, the Internet is dangerous.. but as I said before, I'm putting very decent pictures and they are strongly set to private... :s

Thanks for replying (waiting for the next reply :D).

Hello everyone...

I just want to know, is masturbation normal? Who masturbates and why? Is masturbation the same as porn? Plus, I read on the Internet that masturbation could be healthy... but I don't know...

Waiting for any reply.

Thanks!