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For the woman who is having difficulty orgasming, I want to tell you about myself.  I'm married and have always been increadibly sexual.  However, it is difficult for me to orgasm during intercourse.  I've worked on it with my husband and occasionally it does happen.  I can also occassionally have an orgasm during oral sex.  However, we've found that masturbation is the most effective way for me to have an orgasm.  Now, we enjoy fourplay and intercourse together.  I truly enjoy this but rarely orgasm.  Afterward, my husband masturbates me with his hands and a toy.  With this stimulation I almost always orgasm and we both feel completely fulfilled and satisfied.  It has become our routine and I tell my husband how much I appreciate him loving me enough to do this.  Sometimes women really need more stimulation to orgasm, but that doesn't mean we don't enjoy sex or can't be fulfilled.  Maybe you can find something that works for you.  Of course, putting pressure on yourself won't help either.  So, just plan to not even try to orgasm for a week or two and enjoy sex again.  Good luck! 

I am a music therapist and special educator.  I have had a lot of experience with children with autism and aspergers.  I have found that a lot of the issues with emotion are related to a difficulty in understanding emotions and therefore getting upset because of this.  There are also a lot of sensory integration issues.  I would recommend the book "Song of the Gorilla Nation: My Journey Through Autism" by Dawn Prince-Hughes.  I have seen her present and she is amazing.  She has Aspergers and was able to get her PhD and is a huge animals advocate for gorillas.  She described how she began to understand people and herself through her experience with gorillas.  For Tourettes I would recommend the Oliver Sacks' book "An Anthropologist on Mars: Seven Paradoxical Tales" which has an amazing story about a man with Tourettes who is a surgeon and pilot.  Of course, as a music therapist, I would also recommend music therapy which can help people express emotions in new ways and can offer self-soothing techniques which can help with tics.  Try www.musictherapy.org for more info.  Good luck! 

Jennifer 

Men absolutely have a choice when their girlfriend gets pregnant, they can choose not to be involved in that child's life.  Sure, they may have to pay child support, but basically their child is adopted with a monitary commitment that is fair considering that the woman is going to completely take care of the child in every other way.  Sure, women have other options, but if they choose to have the baby, basically it is their responsibility for the rest of their lives.  Men just have to pay for the woman to take care of the baby.  When you have sex, you take that risk, and you have to be willing to deal with the consequences.  And it is absolutely fair to say that a law like this, every single man who doesn't want the baby (any man who ever pays child support who doesn't have a role in their child's life) would be able to say they didn't want the baby and get away with it.  It may not be fair, but it's right.  

  The one point that was never made during this show was that Krista anbd Bonnie would not have escalated this and continued to rabble rouse if Jeremy had agreed to supervised visitations.  He agreed to it on the first show and then went back on that promise.  If I was this child's parent, I would never allow my child to go into Jeremy's home without supervision.  It is crazy to me that at least this requirement has not been mandated by the courts.  Here is a child that is actually verbally complaining about being molested.  I am a teacher and my experience has been that most children do not or can not verbally explain what has happened to them and often molestation or abuse is found through a change in behavior or in their play.  This child is actually telling people she was molested and still action isn't being taken!  Imagine if she was just playing sexually with her dolls, no one would be listening.  I agree that it isn't fair to punish Jeremy until the courts can make a final conclusion.  But the reality is that this is "he said, she said", so until they can get to the bottom of this, there needs to be supervision to keep Kaylee safe.  That is the least that can be expected.  Dr. Phil keeps saying that Krista needs to calm this down...but under the circumstances, I think she should be yelling even louder!  Whatever it takes to keep Kaylee safe.

Jen