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January 17, 2008, 6:39 pm PST
Happening here too
Quote From: clarpa I really feel for you! I lived through this. My sister did this to my parents who spent their money on keeping her up. . But my sister fell apart, and my parents eventually fell apart, the stress was overwhelming. Only someone in this situation could understand. my parents were unable to save any money to retire on, and they eventually worked until my father developed cancer and had to quit.. My parents aged and grieved over my sister and I knew her addiction was a sickness, but it was so hard on them...I only wish she would have stopped and seen what she was doing to them .The only thing I can suggest is that your parents need to come down on her the DR PHIL WAY, he has so much wisdom, and I wish he had his books and show when my family went down this road. If your parents enable her, they will continue to suffer emotionally and financially;.They need PROFESSIONAL GUIDANCE, IT IS A VERY TOUGH THING TO DEAL WITH. My parents have been supporting my two brothers, 41 and 39. My parents have five children, two girls and three boys. My sister, my brother and I moved out years ago. But my two youngest brothers did not. Neither one has ever been out on their own, and it is infuriating to have to watch my 78 year old day shovel snow and mow the grass. They do not help my parents in the least. They don't think they are taking advantage of my parents, in fact, they are super-critical of the three children who did go out and make lives for themselves. If I do as my parents for help, like to borrow my dad's car when mine is in the shop, they complain to Mom and Dad how I am taking advantage of my parents. They are causing a definite rift in the family, and my parents seem very frustrated. They will be celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary in the next year, and they would like to celebrate. However, my two brothers living with them will not talk to us about preparation. In fact, they do not talk to us, the three oldest, at all. How do you tell an elderly couple not in the best of health to get tough and give their sons notice?
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