Messages By: splitntwo

Bereavement Without End-A Plea From Alienated Parents Everywhere The death of a child is indisputably one of the most incredibly horrible tragedies one can imagine. Whether by sudden accidental circumstance, or by a more lengthy cause as in illness, the loss of a child is undeniably painful to experience.Painful to the parents, parents to the family, and painful to anyone related to the child. Never knowing the laughter of that child again or the tears, the joys and the accomplishements is a pain no parent should ever have to endure, and yet it happens. No one is to blame. It just happens. Imagine the same pain and the same sense of loss, with one exception-the parent is very much aware that the child is alive. The effects of Parental Alienation Syndrome are very similar to the loss of a child due to accident or illness. For the parent who has been alienated from their child, the bereavement does not end. How do we know? Each alienated parent separately, and all of us collectively have lived with both the cause and the effect of Parental Alienation for countless years. Like a terminally fatal childhood disease, Parental Alienation rips the innocent child from your arms slowly. You witness the suffering. You witness the effects. You can feel the impending doom is inevitable, but you are powerless to do anything about it. You try remedy after remedy hoping that one will finally rid your child of the "disease". You work like a person possessed in order to finance the efforts, and when the final blow comes, it is emotionally devastating. You question yourself. You blame yourself for the loss. You tell yourself you should have done more. The very sad part of the story, is it is not unique. There are hundreds of thousands of children and parents affected by PAS. We beg of those with the power to make people aware of this devastatingly horrible phenomena, to please do all they can to educate people on its effects, and to change the laws to protect the innocence of the children involved. Only then can we truly hope to keep children safe from the harmful side effects that are inherent with Parental Alienation itself. It's killing the spirit of family everywhere.

I started Splitntwo to stop parental alienation, against children and both mother's and father's. Children have the right to and deserve a happy, healthy, loving relationship with both Mom and Dad.  I never had a name or a diagnosis for what my children and I have experienced until a few years ago. I typed in a mother being denied her children in google and was amazed there was a name for it, let alone others that were experiencing the same.  Alienated children are living in a cult like environment and no matter what you do to get the other parent to stop and see what damage it is doing to the children, the alienator refuses. Time is on the side of the alienator! With Parental Alienation time stands still. 

 

Since Splitntwo was created thousands of parent's and even alienated children have contacted us, desperate for help and support. There are some common denominators between targeted parent's and children as to how this affects them. They have a profound sadness, an emptiness, "a pain that hurts so bad you can't breathe" all from the loss of their parent or child. An anger that is consuming and a desperate desire and need just to have any little piece of their lives. Alienated children are  trained soldiers, brainwashed, and made to feel guilty and sometimes even punished for wanting to love and to be loved by the other parent. Children believe what they were told by the alienating parent, even if their memories told them otherwise. The children are Split n two, they have no voice. When they finally become adult's they don't always pick up the phone or write you a letter and say OK  come and get me, now that I am allowed to do what's best for ME. They can't! They have been brainwashed, programed and now believe everything they've ever been told.

 

The alienating parent's have been successfully turned the children into soldiers for someone else's battle. The desecration of a parent/child relationship is successful by the alienator once again. In most case's adult children eventually have contact with the parent and most people are able share the truth. The children sometimes become angry with the other parent for all the years they robbed them of with the other parent. They are filled with resentment and sorrow. Some are lucky enough to stop the alienation before it progresses to a severe case.  Most parent's cannot afford the fight they have on their hands or they already have spent every dime they had trying to get our Court's to help them, to recognize whats going on and make it stop.  You mourn as if they are gone forever.

The pain never subsides it only sinks deeper into our hearts and soul's. What we once were, to our children is gone forever. No more, of what everyone else takes advantage of. The experiences and joys we once had with our children or parent's are stolen from us without notice. As we watch everyone else with their family, the simple thing's are what stand out. You smile because it's sweet or it's a reminder of what you use to have. What people don't realize is our smile's and our spirit's are broken. Going through the motion's of life waiting for that one day you'll see them again, wondering if they will ever feel your love again. 

 

I am one of these parent's and my children are these children! 

We have seen each other one time for just a few moments in what will soon be six years.

My son is a grown man and has not made that call nor has he written me a letter to bring him home. They are not the same children they once were, we are now strangers to each other. After all this time I never felt as if my children would never return to me. But the fact of the matter is, anything is possible both good and bad! We can no longer be silent or sit idling by. No child should be denied the other half of who they are.

 

Keep the Faith Jeremiah 31: 16-17