Messages By: karlakor

Don't tell me that he didn't choose to be a father.  Everyone knows the possible consequences of sex, and unless you are willing to accept full responsibility for its result, then don't have sex!   A father's rights are another topic, but this guy is protesting that he is being forced into to be a father.  The fact is that he IS a father, regardless of what she told him, didn't tell him, what he wants, doesn't want, etc., etc.  She didn't rape him, afterall, and he shouldn't be complaining that he has no rights.  The child has rights.  No one chooses to be born, but people do choose to have sex.  It's your responsibility, brother.  By the way, I am a man myself. 

I think our society does a disservice to people in encouraging them to believe that anything can be overcome.  It's not true.  If I were taller, were more athletically inclined, and were more dedicated to the goal, I'm sure I would be a better basketball player than I am, but in fact I am none of those things, and no amount of desire will change that.  We have to live with our limitations, whether they be mental, physical, or psychological, and the sooner we learn that the better off we will be.  What's so terrible about living with the reality that we can't have everything we want?  Those parents should not let their son (and that is what he is; their son, not their daughter) make such a life-altering decision to have hormone therapy at his young age.  And they should stop call him "her", for heaven's sake.  It seems to me that they should be helping him to live within the framework of what he has been given in life instead of indulging this phase of his development.  That's my view, anyway. 

I think Dr. Phil missed the boat on the topic of the woman who believed she is a gay man in a woman's body.  He doesn't think that her habit of dressing up "in drag" is harmful, but no one on the show addressed the question of a married woman going out to gay bars and mingling with this new set of friends that she has made for herself.  Even if she weren't dressing up like a drag queen, shouldn't Dr. Phil have pointed out that it is inappropriate for a married woman to be out socializing in bars without her husband?  What business does this woman have being out at bars, having a high old time, while her husband and HER children are at home?  THAT is the inappropriate behavior.  If she still wants to go out and socialize like that, then she should have stayed single.  I side with her husband on this one, and I think Dr. Phil missed seeing the bigger problem.