Messages By: cinaplum13

I tried doing this the other night but I was not in the right screen, now I am I will try this again. Growing up I watched my parents go through this with my dad's mother.It divided our house into two camps with my dad and I on one side and my mother and my younger sister on the other. Thier marraige ended in divorce partly due to the fact my dad wouldn't stand up for my mother against his mother. He also wouldn't stand up for his mother against my mother. He always told me they had to figure it out for themselves he didn't want to be in the middle. This problem mostly stemmed from the fact my grandmother didn't want my parents to have more than one child,me; this created conflict between my sister and I that to this day makes it hard to be as close as we should be as sisters.

When my dad remarried he gained three more daughters and as you can imagine my grandmother was not happy, they are not my granddaughters but they wereand my sister and I had no problem telling her so which didn't make her happy especially with me. In the end about six months before she died she moved back down south and I told her I couldn't take her anymore badmouthing any of my sisters. We didn't leave on good terms but I did get to tell her about a month before she died that I loved her very much. The discourse she caused in our family was great. It tore one family apart and I didn't want it to tear our new one apart the same way. It wasn't fair for her to treat me so differently from the other girls.         Cinaplum13

As I watched the show I couldn't believe what I was hearing, a website where women can go and ruin mens lives but men can't fight back. Like putting That's not true was going to be believed on this website. I have done my share of wrong doing towards my exes as they have toward me. But I would never get on line and diss them by name. I have done some things that I am not proud of in the past but wouldn't change because of the child I brought into this world.  See names aren't important when you need to get something off your chest if your doing it in a public forum. Let me tell you of some of the best revenge stories but no names please. when I started seeing my older sons biological donor we were both married to other people, I know it was wrong and against everything I was raised to believe. I divorced within a year of starting this relationship he to this day is still married although not living with his wife since 1990. I would be a good one to go on this show myself to talk to Dr. Phil. Anyway I stayed 9 years with this man until my son was 5. Shortly after  I miscarried my second baby, my older son was 18 months old he started seeing another woman. It took me some time to figure this out. He was having us drive the same car at different times so I started snooping and figured out where he was living. I went to see him and she answered the door 8 months pregnant ( I had heard rumors but this was new to me of course he said it wasn't his). I looked at her and realized he did to me what he did to his wife. I said to her "let me guess he told you this and that (the actual words are unimportant fill in the blanks) about me (the same things he told me about his wife I used in reference to myself to her) You know I don't know which one of us I feel more sorry for you or me but at least I know he is married" She then opened the door and let me in. I asked her where he was, she pointed to the front bedroom. He was actually hiding in a closet, What a man$! Like a dumb*** it was 2 more years before  I got rid of him and of course I'm not really rid of him my son is now 15, not that he has anything to do with him(a whole different show). During the last two years I went through everything that belonged to him and his girlfriend to find the answers I wanted. I don't have much luck picking men it is something I have to work on. the next guy I picked was commitment phobic and he cheated on me and thought I wouldn't find out and said lovely things to me like "You will never find anyone else but me no one will  ever want to date you." He also cheated on me and had a baby by another woman. We were on and off for 4 years he left his voicemail information on my phone and I proceeded to erase awhole lot of voicemail messages. Sex with him was scarse and he wanted me to believe that I was his only one, HA! The last year of our thing together I found someone I truely loved. This man did very wierd things and promised me to his buddy that was the last straw, I changed my locks two weeks latter he came over trying to use his key and I wouldn't let him inI told him it was over for good. About two weeks after that he called me at work to tell me he was sorry, he didn't like leaving me with no one and I told him not to feel sorry for me because I had been involved with someone else for one  year now and I had been erasing his voicemails for that long too. There was dead silence on the other end of the line. I went on with my life and a few months later my life and my families changed forever. My older son's dad was found to have prostate cancer and had to have it removed just to survive, for a short while he went back to his wife during recovery. Of course this was devestating but I thought God had a sense of humor most men don't think it is funny but since this man cheated on his wife and me and probably the other woman too not having the prostate anymore ment he could no longer have sex. I think it to be divine justus. then we lost my youngest sister and her daughter to foul play. My son flipped out and had to be hospitalized for 21 days, he is Bipolar and doing fine now on medications. Then I found out I was pregnant and two weeks later I lost my fiance,  father to the one I was carrying. We had to put the family dog to sleep a short time later and then 9/11 happened thank goodness we didn't lose anyone in that tragidy but I certainly identified with them being pregnant at the time. It's been five years, I have a 4 1/2 year old boy and my 15 year old we are doing better life goes on. With everything I have been through I would never get on to a site and out my exes and trust me I've just outlined the history in this I would never do something that would hurt their ability to get a job, keep a job or see other people. It is the duty of the person that they are seeing right now to evaluate their worth as a person not the ex, never the ex. I think that man has the right to be upset by what is posted on her website  and there should be some ind of controls put in place, this definately went to far. She was also clueless that this hurt the man's reputation. Her indifference irritated me  she needs to take some kind of responsability for her website even if it is public forum as she says. I hope he wins his lawsuit.                                        

                                                        Cinaplum13

I know they can fight back on that website but what is the likely hood of  Tasha letting the comments stay because if you really believe that she doesn't censure it, think again. She already admitted that she removed a profile belonging to a man. Now if she doesn't censure how did she know that the profile belonged to a man.

                                                                                                      Cinaplum13

I read the brief summary of the show about Danny B. and had to write I have been involved with someone for 4 1/2 years now and nothing has changed he keeps promising that he will stop and yet it continues.  He is addicted to drugs and Alcohol and I am a co-dependent and I am stepping away, I am not scared right now but when he gets released from a parole violation I am not sure what he will do.  I am not afraid he will hit me since I know I wil protect myself and my kids, they are not his children but my youngest thinks of him as a dad he is the only one he has ever known.  I know this is best for me and my kids now how do I stay strong.  I still love him but love is not enough.  He has not helped me financially in all our time together except a few illegally gained dollars which is no help at all.  I have done things for him that I would never have done in the past.  I need to leartn how to look for someone whole that doesn't need fixed I tend toward the bad boy image and they need help and of cource with my help they will be fixed.  I am too old for this and now choose to be alone with my kids so I can finish raising them without interference.  If anyone has any suggestions help please.  It is hard to give up on someone that you love.  I will watch this on thursday this week and maybe I will get some insite.

I was married to a gentleman who had a drinking problem and when I wanted a divorced he stayed in the house we were buying because I couldn't afford the house payments, so I moved back home(my parents) that was my choice.  He dragged it on for two years until I signed a quitclaim deed(we live in a no fault state) to the house we were buying.  My divorce was then final in January of 1990.  I thought it was over but I was wrong 7 years later I was notified that I was going to be sued for 43,000 dollars in connection with this house I no longer had claim too, I did the only thing I could do at the time and filed bankrupsy it was then explained to me that my notice was sent to the old address(the one he lived at and was foreclosed on for 6000 dollars in back house payments).  It was also explained to me that the quit claim deed only prevented me from physical use of the house but I could still be held liable for the moneies owed for this house. At least that is how it works in Indiana.  Before signing any  papers like that I would investigate the liability of both people.  Just had to share my experience.

 

Cinaplum13