Messages By: lost1234

I feel terribly alone.  I am extremely overweight.  I wasn't always this way.  Over the course of 2-3 years I've put on over 100 pounds.  I really honestly don't know how I've gained this weight.  I eat as healthy as I can and I'm no couch potato.  I am depressed due to the marriage I'm in.  There are extreme money issues also. I'd love to have gastric-bypass surgery, but I cannot evenafford to go to the doctor.  Since I've been married for 15 years I've been to the doctor 4 times.  I need to loose this weight because I no-longer feel good about anything.  I cringe when I have to go out in public and I will literaly have severe panic attacks in stores due to the whispers and snickers I get.  Please anyone out there who feels the way I do or just has some advice I'd love to hear from you.   

My daughter is 13 and in middle school. She comes home everyday with horror stories of what girls her age are doing. It scares her and me also. We've told her that we believe it is wrong in Gods eyes to have sex before marriage, but people also must understand that the pressure is much worse than when i was in school in the 80's.   I wan my child to be in the know so to speak.  I do not want her pregnant at this age because I know that she could not handle the responsibility.  If a parent chooses to put  their child on birth control that should be OK. I also think this is OK for the school to do also as long as Parents are notified.  I will never forget 2 weeks ago when my daughter came home and said mom, there's a 12 year old girl pregnant in middle school. I don't want my  daughter to be that girl.  

I get so mad at fat abusers. I am married to one. I haven't been fat until i injured a back injury 3 years ago and then had a brother whom commited suicide. I have put on 100 pounds plus and now am struggling to loose the weight. It is very hard and when stupid people call us fat slobs and other mean and cruel names, it just makes it worse. I know from experience. My husband used to be ignorant in this department, until i almost died, due to complications of pneumonia. People can change, as he has. He said he never knew why he said those things, but that he regrets every word ever issued in ignorance. I am slowly loosing the weight and i feel very sorry for people who are made fun of. It hurts and can really traumatize someone in ways a person could never know. I hope that these people can learn that fat people are not bad, nor are they slobs. Some people do not try to loose the weight, but in some cases such as mine alot of it was due to meds and bed rest for a long time and then depression sank in. I honestly didin't know i had gotten so big until i finally looked in a mirror and was shocked and sick with myself for letting it get this far. I was always skinny. So beleive me it hurts. I have indured insults in public places and in front of my kids. People need to learn to keep their mean comments to themselves. If you don't like the way a person looks, don't look. and if you cannot love them anymore, do not threaten to leave just leave as  you aren't helping threm in any way and they would probably do better without you anyway. I  hope dr. phil gets people on this show to see  how dumb they can really be....