Messages By: mandissa77

 When I was in my 20's I was into modeling, nothing stupendous, mostly local things, lots of  things I said no to (like cigarette promotion), but was constantly watching my weight.   I finally got out of modeling and found I could not eat normally.   I read about anorexia, I made sure that I got enough potassium and bruished my teeth after any vomiting session.    Now I am 52, I am at normal weight, but it is still hard to eat.   And my teeth have suffered.  I've had two molars that had cracks in them so I needed root-canals twice.   I am careful to use a toothpaste that is kind to your tooth enamal.    I have acid reflux disease.   It's a wonder to me that I lived through it.   It took about 20 years to get over the worst part.    At one point my niece developed anorexia, and she did listen to her mom and me, I told her how hard it was and that I understood and would help in any way I could.   She is now a mother of two, very healthy, very pretty, normal weight and so happy.
If you have this condition, please get help, even if it's only through a book.   Do something!   The afteraffects  (if you live through it) are no fun at all.

And mothers, please don't encourage your girls to be thin because it's "in".   People shouldl not make fun of young girls and the changes in their bodies.   Our bodies will continue to change throughout our lives. 

Mandissa77

 This bully of a husband seems to be unable to realize that the wife he chose and how happy she with him, is a reflection of his treatment of her.    It is so simple, I don't mean to liken his wife to a dog, but when you see a dog who is constantly fearful, can't eat, shivers at your touch, well don't you instantly look at his owner?   Obviously the owner is a slovenly coward.   When a husband treats a wife this way, he shows just how unbelienabaly stupid he is.  Everyone who sees how she acts is seeing the reflection of how he treats her.  He's a jerk and a fool and everyone can see it.  It takes so much courage for the wife to figure out how to leave, but she must, or this creep will never have a chance of "getting it".     
I saw how my dad treated my mom, it was just passive abuse, never caring for her.  But I decided I would rather live alone than ever marry someone like that.

Mandissa77

 What a sad jerk this guy is.  He can't figure out that the happiness and condition of his family, especially his wife, is a direct reflection of HIM!   If he were exercising proper treatment of his wife, it would show.  Right now she is in need of his support.  By calling her names, he is actually pointing right back at himself. 
What if tomorrow he found out he is a diabetic and will need to take insulin, and that his weight becomes extremely hard to manage?  It's more than just a little bit possile.   Will he have a wife whose help he can count on then?  Maybe not.   Maybe he will have pushed her so far that she is long gone, and being away from his abuse, possibly is able to get control of her weight and her life back.   Abuse is never the answer.   Never.   He might only realize it when he starts reaping the results.

Mandissa77