Messages By: getrealtime

Dr. Phil, I think you did the public a disservice today.  Most people believe all sex offenders are predators.  There are sexually oriented offenders, sex offenders Tier One,Two and Three, three being the most dangerous. Some consentual relationships with teenagers over 14 and adults are drug or alcohol related, no force or violence involved. Not all offenders are sociopaths.  Look at the ones who are taking advantage of their time in prison to turn their lives around, to understand what led them to it, such as they themselves having been the victim of child abuse or molestation and who plan to try to make a difference in others' lives when they are released. Some are peope who have wives and children waiting for them. How are they to go on.  I believe your show today fed the witch hunt which is currenly going on.  I believe it fed the ambitions of politicians who want to appear "tough on crime" and who are in a position to make sentencing laws.  I think that our current judicial system is currupt and our prison system is failing the public.  I believe you know better.

Most of you act like you are perfect. That you have never did anything wrong in your entire life. Have you ever took something that was not yours? even if it was from a sister or brother and you was just a child? Had a bad thought about someone? Been in a fight? Many more stuff that you may or may not got caught doing are wrong and just cause you got away with it does not make it less wrong. You have no right to judge people until you have all the facts. Not just one side of the story but both. Just cause someone is a registered sex offender does not mean they actually did the crime. It just means that the court found quilt of it and for the rest of thier life they are going to be labeled as one. In some states you do not have to rap or sexually hurt someone againist thier will to be labeled as one, but you have to live with being called one. Did you know that in some states you can simply just flash someone or run down the street with no cloths on or close to it and be labeled as one. Plus did you know that if your 18, and your boyfriend or girlfriend is 17 or younger, and the right people find out about it, that you can be label as a registered sex offender with or without the underage person or thier parent pressing charges. All this cause you and the person you love want to express how you both feel for each other. You did nothing wrong but you will be labeled for it for the rest of your life. Yes I know there are some people who are correctly labeled as one. But the ones being released have paid thier time. It is on thier record for all to see. They have to live with the mistake they made for the rest of thier life. I know some are not remorseful about what they did. But some are and it is not right to group them with the ones that are not. A lot want to change and are working on being just normal and are truefully remorseful. But how are they going to do this if your not giving them a chance and if your constantly judging them. I think your just as bad as what you think they are!! They can only change if you give them a chance. That is what the government is doing. So get your facts about someone before you judge them. Also some people who are not labeled registered sex offender are worse than the people who are one. Just cause they have not been caught or were given a less of a charge does not make them better than the ones that are. But you only do not want to live near the ones that are. Get you facts then judge them. You never know what you will find out. Plus what if you was wrongly convicted of something that you did not do. Would you want someone judging you before they got to know you or befoe they atleast find out both sides of the story? Most likely you would not but you are doing that to them. Think about it.

My son is a immature 21 year old that has been trying to have a normal relationship with girls 18 and over. He is a sweet kid and I call him kid because that is what he is like, a kid. Well, this past week we have been going through a tough time as he was with a girl that claimed she was 18 and looked that age. Come to find out she was 15. My son didn't know her very long to find out the truth about her.  We are finding out that this girl has accused others of the same thing she has accused my son of. I assure you my son is not dangerous and could possible have to register as a sex offender.  I think before someone jumps to a conclusion that all people that are registered sex offenders are dangerous criminals, maybe you should actually find out what their story is and possibly they were also accused of something they actually didn't do. I am all for keeping the creeps and perverts away from our children but there are some out there that just got a bad rap. What about these young girls that get mad because the guy figured out their story or just decided the relationship wasn't working. They can make up anything and ruin a young mans life.  As this girl has done to my son.