Messages By: jeanmrogers

I am a 42 year old woman.  I recently made a command decision that I will not sit alone in my home on any more weekends, and that I will find that healthy-good-for-me man.  I am not saying I am an expert at this, but I would like to share my approach. 

I recently read a study for job applicants.  Basically in my age group and gender, I would need to apply for 27 jobs to get one interview.  I realized this job hunt is just a numbers game, and I wondered if the same was true for finding a great mate.  So to test my hypothesis, I put together a project plan, with a committee, complete with status updates, and weekly review meetings. 

My committee identifed several ways to meet people, including internet dating, coffee shops, similar interest clubs, outings, dog parks...etc.  They helped me feel more approachable, and were a fantastic support circle. I had a weekly report  due every sunday over brunch, on how and who I met and what great qualities they displayed, and the red flags they showed.

It took about 3 weeks to really get rolling with my plan... But once it took off, I dated 18 men, in one month. I had coffee or dinner with them, wrote up a review, and crafted many polite follow up emails stating the the candidate did not get the position...so to speak.  I was exhausted, because it was hard work, and I worked on it every evening for about 2 months.

I know I sound nuts, but I found a nice guy to date.  We have only been dating a few months and I have no idea where we are going with this, but I do know one thing... I don't sit at home alone on Saturday night anymore.  And my good friends (aka "the committee") had a great time meeting, reviewing, and helping me out, along with some wonderful sunday brunches.

Hey, I am just saying...one woman's approach.