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September 29, 2006, 1:15 pm PDT

09/26 Marry Me or Else!

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At least until he finds the real Mrs. Right.
Yepper. Many men are just waiting for "something better" to come along. Probably no so in Tony's case, though. He'd already had two "Mrs Wrongs." Or, was he their "Mr Wrong?" He'd already been married twice. And, afraid another marriage would become a third divorce. Being twice married, 17 years older than Mary, and taking four years to give her a ring without setting a date should've told her something about him. Sure, he'll let her wash his clothes, cook his meals, pay his bills, and have sex with him. But, after 12 years, she still hasn't figured out he'll probably never marry her. As Dr Phil pointed out, who's going to "buy the cow" when they can "get the milk for free." And, Tony's been getting a lot of "free milk" for the last dozen years. Now, he's "considering" marriage. So he won't "lose her."  All the benifits, he means. He'll "buy the cow" so he won't "lose the milk." That's not love. And, Mary knows it.  She was wise to move on
 
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September 29, 2006, 1:22 pm PDT

09/28 Love Scams?

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When I saw Dee Dee on the show yesterday...I couldn't believe that she could fall for such a scam. I too was IM'd the same exact picture and was talking with this gentleman. In a matter of minutes, I knew that things did not add up. He typed his messages in such a way that I knew he was not from here. He said that he was from Oklahoma and was overseas on business. I asked him what business, how he got into that business. I always ask questions. How could Dee Dee and the other women think that these men are in love with them and vice versa...if they don't even know basic information about each other. My advice to anyone who does any type of online dating....ask questions. (lots of them) If ANYTHING seems strange or doesn't add up, just block them from your IM. Your instincts are usually right. If you do this right away...you haven't lost anything because you haven't invested time (or God forbid....money) into this person. Please don't have that low of self esteem and be that desperate for someone to love you that you will believe anything. There are still good, honest people that will love you for you.

 

Kathy B

Dr Phil's a firm believer in online dating. Especially Match.com. But, it still pays to use common sense. I'd suggest reading his book "Love Smart" and searching his website for good dating advice.
 
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September 29, 2006, 1:34 pm PDT

09/29 Wedding Dos and Don'ts

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I only caught the last few minutes of the show because I was busy but anyway, it's not that important but where was Oprah at Jay's wedding?

She was in Africa, overseeing a building project sponsored by one of her charities. I'm sure, with the McGraws' blessing. At least, that's what I think. The tabloids say Dr Phil was really upset with her for "blowing off" his son's wedding by going to Africa instead. But, I don't believe it. Dr Phil, Robin, and Oprah are very close. And, I'm sure she gave Jay and Erika her blessing. And, a very nice gift.
 
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September 29, 2006, 1:54 pm PDT

09/25 The Dr. Phil House: A Family's Last Chance, Part 2

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With exception for what this couple is doing to their children I think they are enjoying playing more to the camera, being on TV, and getting a nice vacation to California than they are about saving a marriage, especially the wife.  I think they belong more on a show like Springer, airing their dirty laundry etc., than the Dr. Phil show.  I have serious doubts this marriage will ever be saved nor do I feel the wife truly wants to.  I feel bad for their children and cannot believe the total disregard for their feelings as well as the shouting and cursing right in front of them.  How awful for these children and shame on the parents.

It's pretty hard to save a marriage that began as an affair. I've seen other Dr Phil guests whose marriages began the same way. And, come on his show fighting like a pair of buzzards over roadkill.

Or, cars! Where I live, Northeast Georgia, anyone who parks their car at the lake is likely to come back and find the rubber around their windshield eaten by buzzards.

Back to these marriages that begin as affairs. Husbands? Your wife cheated  with you on her first husband. Can you really trust her not to cheat on you? Wives? Can you trust the guy who cheated with you not to cheat on you?

 
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October 5, 2006, 2:41 pm PDT

10/03 Ask Dr. Phil and Robin

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True Elffie and also, some people might feel he is a tool of God's.   I don't think Jesus can cure agoraphobia. My uncle has a social anxiety disorder and he believes in Jesus. He knows he has to do therapy and take his meds to help him with this disorder. He personally believes that these are tools of God's to help him over come his problems.
I agree with your uncle. God often uses doctors and therapists to help believers such as your uncle.
 
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October 9, 2006, 1:16 pm PDT

I KNEW it!!!!!!!

I've been suspecting it from Day One. And, knowing it for a week now. That Jessica was never willing to end her affair.

Otherwise, she would'ver made that phone call Todd was begging her to. And, told her co-worker their affair was over. Telling Todd she wasn't ready was a dead giveaway that she had no intention of ending the affair.

And, what did Jessica do, the minute she got home? Went straight back to her affair.

I  never "got" her agenda. Why she came to the Dr Phil House in the first place. 

With that restraining order against Todd, she obviously wasn't there to work on the marriage. She only had It revoked because Dr Phil wouldn't let her stay the without him.

And,  she kept lying through her teeth to Dr Phil and his staff, denying the affair. Only in the face of undeniable evidence did she "come clean" about it. Finally admitting she'd had the affair. But not that she wasn't going to end it.

Now, she's back at it. And, The marriage that began as an affair itself, is over. Didn't Todd know. If she'd cheat with him, she'd cheat on  him? Guess he knows now. .

 
 
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October 9, 2006, 1:30 pm PDT

10/09 The Dr. Phil House: A Family's Last Chance, Part 4

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Can you explain to me how somebody would be wiling to air their dirty laundry on national TV like the Todd & Jessica Soap Opera?  I kept telling my wife I think they are all actors scamming Dr. Phil because I couldn't comprehend the way they acted on TV; especially with Jessica continuing her liason with another man while the whole world watched.  This boggles my mind.

I think Todd wanted the marriage to survive. Otherwise, IMO, he would've left Jessica when he began suspecting her of having the affair. And, I think he was being honest with Dr Phil. Jessica's the one I think was trying to scam Dr Phil.

She lied to him and his staff about the affair until they presented her with undeniable evidence. But, after finally owning up to the affair, she went right on lying. And, right back into the affair the moment her plane landed.

I never could understand why she came to the DPH in the first place. With no intention of :"coming clean" about the affair. Or, ending it. What was her damn agenda? That's what puzzles me.
 
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October 10, 2006, 4:13 pm PDT

10/09 The Dr. Phil House: A Family's Last Chance, Part 4

I'd be the last one in the world to demonize Todd. He, at least, was trying to make the marriage work. But, let's not forget how this marriage began. It began as an affair. And, such a marriage is usually doomed. Because, as Dr Phil often points out, and pointed out to Todd, if they cheat with you, they'll often cheat on you. And, this was Todd's experience with Jessica. Twice! Suppose Jessica had broken off her curent affair? There'd likely be another. She's IMO, the cheating type. Dr Phil is right to encourage Todd to move on. And, find someone else. Let's hope he's learned to leave the married ones alone!
 
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October 10, 2006, 4:23 pm PDT

10/09 The Dr. Phil House: A Family's Last Chance, Part 4

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I'm sorry. I will have to disagree with this qoute. Jessica is cold because Jessica is cold.  No man should be able to take all your emotion away to the point that you would be cold to your own children too. That is ridiculous. Im sure when she was pumpin these other men she sure made some emotions. Things sure where hot then!!

 

Jessica was not the victim here. if you seen all 3 shows, its clear that Jessica has a voice. When she is ready she can be just as vicious.

 

DId you notice how initially, when Jessica confessed the first affair, she was crying and saying she felt she was an awful person etc etc. When Todd sits close to her and tells her he forgives the affairs and wants to work on the marriage, her tears miraculously dissaperared. Her second confession, that it wasn't the first time, almost seemed like she was stabbing him in the heart with the news. What happened to the sad, poor jessica crying sorrowfully for her mistake(s). you could turn her emotions on and odd like a light switch. That's not genuine. She wanted the easy way out. When she realized the fist confession wasn't enough to push Todd away...she went for the plunge...with a vengence and you could see it in her face.

 

If Jessica was so fed up she should have used  Dr. Phils house to come clean and find away to move forward. If that meant separateing or even divorce learning, and preparing to make it as painless as possible for the children, and as peaceful as possible for herself and Todd. Why all this drama, why make promises you never intend to keep, and now after Dr. Phil has brought you thus far, you refuse to have a follow up???

 

WAKE UP. 

I Jessica's "crying" was part of the snow job she continued trying to put over on Dr Phil. Pretend to be all remorseful over an affair she obviuosly had no intention of ending. And, could no longer deny, in the face of undeniable evidence and Dr Phil's suspicion. Todd apparently only suspected her of the second affair. Copping to the first one seemed an obvious ploy to hurt him. I think she wanted him to sue for divorce. And, do all the "dirty work" for her. Freeing her to continue the affair.
 
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October 10, 2006, 4:29 pm PDT

10/09 The Dr. Phil House: A Family's Last Chance, Part 4

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Yes I wanted so much to save my marriage but it was not ment to be, which probably is a good thing, we are doing so much better now, the boys and I are doing great, as for Jessica well I could not tell you because the little I talked with her she has just been JESSICA !!!
What a nice way of putting it, Todd! Glad you're doing well. The boys, too. Hope if you haven't gotten custody yet, you will. I think they'll experience less  chaos  with you the custodial parent.
 
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