Messages By: dancingfeather

I am a native indian and cleanliness is always been something important. My mother taught me to always wash my hands, take paper in a public bathroom to put on the toilet and wash my hands and take a paper towel to open the door.

I always had lysol in my bagage and at home. I was a entertainer so I kept Lysol with me all the time and sprayed the sheets, the dressers, the toilet, the bath, the sinks, well everything I could spray because I was taught that where there is public there is germs.

So I started laughing when I saw on your show, Lysol . I always carry hand disenfection in my purse. I always carry a small can of Lysol and spray the toilets when I go in public. Even at home.

I also take oil of oregano with olive oil every morning..it kills any bacteria and even the super bug. Yep, that is right..it kills the super bug. since I have been doing that I have not had a flu since 3 years and as soon as I have a hint of a sore throat, I take more and it's gone.

I disenfect all over in my house. People used to laugh at me and my cleanliness and my Lysol..well, am sure if they watched your show, they no longer laughing now. 

Any meat I buy I marinate with lime juice to kill any bacteria that may be on the meat. I don't travel without my Lysol, my oil of oregano and Mother Apple Cider to soak vegetables and even on the meat to kill whatever that may be left even if I washed well..and I never drink water without putting a teaspoon of Mother Apple Cider if I am travelling..so no tourista and danger of getting a dangerous bacteria in my body.

I even rinse my floors with vinegar which is excellent to kill bacteria and safe for animals.  Sometimes I use pure lemon juice in the water to rinse  my floors.

I even buy a spray to kill any bacteria before I cut my food and which is not dangerous to our health.

Everyday I pour some peroxide in the toilet and wipe the toilet with peroxide too.  I was always told that I took too much precaution but your show today proved me right.

My motto is..Trust Me I'm Always Right lolll and 99.9 % of the time a show like yours or on the news prove me right.

Example: I always had my passport up to date and in my purse and I would tell people that one day to cross to the US we would need our passport..and sure enough we do now. I haven't been travelling so I didn't renew it this year but I will because it is also the best ID that you can give when you need one.

Example: People always said to me when I was in my twenties..Why you keep your headlights on in bright daylight all the time? I said, *I noticed that the buses always had their headlights on and I figured that it was for safety for we can see them better, so I asked a driver and sure enough that was the reason, so I always left my lights on in the daytime and told everyone..one day it will be automatically lit in cars as it is a safety matter..and yep..years later..lights automatically go on in cars..

I am a logical thinker, so if I see something that isn't the norme, I wonder why and ask, then I apply it to myself.

So what my mother taught me to always wash my hands even after shaking hands with someone and always try not to shake hands if there is the flu going around and of course take her potion to keep me safer while all others are sick.

I am so in the habit of doing it since a kid that it's second nature to me and automatically by Lysol and antibacterial gel to carry in my purse. It happens sometimes you can't wash your hands for one reason or another, so out I whip my antibacterial gel.

If I can get my hands on paper seat couvers..I have that also in my purse, or else I wash the toilet seat with soap and spray the toilet seat with Lysol and then put toilet paper on it. Better be safe than sorry..I also lift the cover and spray it and inside the bowl. A little squirt on the faucets is a good thing too and the door knob.

I am not shy to tell people who go to the public facilities and not wash their hands what they think they are doing!| I shame them into washing their hands. If I see an employee in a toilet and not wash their hands, I go right to the manager and tell him..you employee hasn't washed her or his hands after using the toilet, so I am not coming in here to eat anymore.  Trust me..it gets told.

I always taught my kids to wash the bathtub once they were finished in respect for each other as it is important that the tub is clean. 

I have been also turning off electricity to save. Friends laughed at me because they said it wouldn't show any difference in the city..I said, you will see it will happen .  I unplug everything in my house I don,t use often, the toaster, washer, dryer, lights. I have been saving electricity all my life..taught by my mother who always said we must treat all things with respect and not abuse it.

I'm so happy..that I am right .. and who knows what else in the future I am doing..will show me am right. lolllllll

I find it very sad when people resort to this kind of ways. It is hard enough for us women to find someone who is sincere and have to watch out for gold diggers without now having these two numbskulls *teaching* men how to do it.

More women than men get *fleeced* than men do because *we* women have good hearts. A guy that I was going out with, told me, this .*M.J. I could take you for all or little money you have, why? Because us men know women who have good hearts are an easy prey. I live that way but with you I will not do it because you are truly a real person, more than just a good heart.* One morning I got up and he was gone, never to be heard of again. I cried but I then realized that he had done me a great favor and since then I know the signs of men who want a woman just for her money.

What I do to begin with when a man starts to complain and that is what they do to get money from you..I say, *oh, I am so sorry for you but maybe you should get a second job, the money I have is for myself and my family, besides *Men* are supposed to be the providers and I find it not attractive when a man asks money from me.

Trust me they don't stick around. Besides, a man who truly loves you doesn't ask for money and if you do lend some, make sure you have it written down on paper and notarized. If he is offended then you know he isn't sincere and won't pay you back.  When we are in a relationship it is normal to help each other out but not you doing all the *helping*.

I do it with finesse..if anyone asks me for money, I don't refuse, I say, * I am on a budget, I will see if I can and will call you back.* I never do..and more than likely that person has found a way to get it and won't call you back if you don't.

Now, I tell men, if you are looking for a sincere relationship fine but if you are looking for a woman with means so that you can live of it, forget it right now because I worked for my money and have no intention of supporting a man.  They don't stick around long ..trust me. When they see that you really mean it..poooh they are gone.

Online now there is a new thing these men are doing.. *Oh, hi my name is..I am a widow..my wife died in a car or plane crash and I have one son or daughter.* They use this to get your sympathy. I can't count how many online of men I met that use this line and they are usually businessmen they say living in Nigeria or UK or some other place in Africa and I met a few from the U.S.  Now, I tell them straight up that they are lying and when they argue I ask them to scan me a death certificate and a marriage certificate including their birthcertificate. Hahaha. I had 5 of them contact me online using the same line..funny they not around long..hahaha.

So women watch your hearts and your pocket book. A real man doesn't use your money .. he makes sure he has his own. Of course if you have been married for long time and something happens that is different but watch out if early in the relationship, he starts having money troubles, don't give them any money and you will see, one morning you will  get up and he is gone. CRY FOR JOY!

I got taken once in my life only and I didn't lose much..600$ only..from the guy whom I talked above. He left one morning after telling me that he couldn't do that to me because I was a real person and had so much love that it made him feel guilty which is something that never bothered him before.

I was lucky. 

It isn't true. Women don't use the *tips and tricks* to get their man and then use it for gold digging. Women's first purpose is LOVE..women think with their hearts first and SEX second and MONEY thirdly.

Men think with THEIR PENIS FIRST, THEIR HEAD SECOND AND THEIR HEARTS LAST.

Women want a good provider and that is normal. Woman want a man who can *provide* the necessary needs to build a family. Women don't use these tips to rob a man..women who do this have known how without any lessons.

When my mother died, my stepfather kept everything and at that time I didn't know that I could go to a lawyer being so young.

But since I have never been materialistic, I just let it go and he will have to stand up before God one day and he will get his due. 

I don't think we should argue over ..material things as life is so short.

Hey we have the RULES BOOK on how to get a man. There are even classes on how to hook a man. There are classes on how to kiss. There are hundreds of books addressed to women to hook a millionnaire. Which places are the best to hook a millionaire etc etc.

So if women are doing the same thing..I don't see what is wrong with men doing the same thing. Women use this power to get what they want and probably leave broken hearts and penniless men along the way.

It's harder for men to get a man than a woman.  So some men are using it to invalidate women, women are doing the same thing. So what's the fuss about?

Men and women get fleeced all the time..it's not a new thing. It's there since the world was made.

So I think it's a big fuss over nothing..women are just getting the same thing they are doing to men.

I can imagine that his father was the *hammer* with him because his mom was too lenient? It is ridiculous to be a *hammer* on a child. You don't *hammer* discipline. A child has to be taught not *hammered*.

How can one have a desire for a child then try to *hammer* life into them? One never learns anything this way and more than not can turn the child into a drug abuser, street walker etc. and yes..suicide.

You want your child to learn, think of how you would have wanted your parents to teach you, help you when you did things wrong because when we are children in learning process we do not realize the full extent of what we do wrong. I realize many things I did when I was a child and teenager..that I fully didn't know what I was doing was wrong.

Spanking, hitting, depriving food, etc doesn't help. There is a right way to do things and a wrong way..the problem is that we get manuals how to take care of anything we buy but we never got one to be a parent. We are just thrown into life and parenting not knowing what we are doing and thinking what we are doing is right..yet it isn't because we do not fully understand how to be a parent because we were not *taught*  to be one.

I truly believe that there should not only be prepartions to be married but also what it is to be a parent. Then maybe people would think about it before having children and be prepared. We all just get married, have kids and not knowing more than we did when we were kids knowing right from wrong.

If we did then no parent would have trouble with their kids and no kid would get into trouble or have to be *hammered*.