Messages By: roaringredhead

I had to check out your personal profile, because for a minute I thought you were one of my friends.  So, no I guess you're not alone, sorry to say.  I do hope that the Dr. Phil show staff read your statement, and can assist you in some way.  I do recommend Dr. Phil's books, Family First and Self Matters.  (No, I'm not staff.) Also, if you don't have insurance coverage for a family therapist, I suggest calling children services or your county welfare department.  Ask if there are any free or low-income services.  You wouldn't believe how much a good family therapist could help.  I would even check out various support groups for you and your children.  Get the smaller kids in Big Brothers, Big Sisters.  Trust me, they accept everyone in the program.  I always recommend Big Brothers, Big Sisters for single parents.  Of course, I don't know your situation, but I know if there is a will, there is a way.

Ow, PLEASE!  Noah was caught in a genuine lie people.  Listen to the show again, please.  Noah said a statement, Dr. Phil asked, "Are you sure about that?"  Dr. Phil gave Noah three times to correct himself before calling him a liar.  When Noah was caught, he admitted that he lied.   He was lieing about his Mom hitting him, so that he could justify hitting her.  Which there is no justification for.  I can't believe this 10 year old is manipulating you like he has been manipulated his own mother for years.  I know you all think he's smart, but come on, is he really smarter than you. 

Yep, i do believe he just did THAT on his own. 

Whatever!  My Mom was the worst of the worst, and I would have never spoke down to her or slapped her.  I learned to use appropriate means of dialogue and behavior.  Justifying Noah's behavior is simply selling him short.  Dr. Phil was raised by an abusive father with an addiction, do you think he ever acted like that toward his parents.  I doubt it!  There is NO EXCUSE for that behavior.  Stop crucifying that mother, and realize that parents are not perfect.  All of us make mistakes, and none of us expect our child to talk down to us, disrespect us and abuse us.  Noah is abusing his mother.  He knows exactly what he is doing, and he knows it is wrong.  That child is far from stupid. 

Mom "checked out" years ago, right.  Did you ever think he learned it from mainstream culture.  It doesn't look like the boys exercising, maybe t.v. is the culprit, or video games, or friends, or pretty much anything else.  We don't live in a tunnel do we?

No, I think his actions and words speak loud and clear.  He certainly isn't acting like a 10 year-old; therefore, he doesn't need to be delt with like a 10 year-old. 

My child is considered very intelligent.  She is exremely strong willed and highly manipulative.  She's 4 1/2 years-old.  I actually adore these qualities in her, because she shows them in a way that is positive.  Of couse, comparing Noah to my daughter is like comparing apples and oranges. 

Noah is acting really big for his britches, and he needs to be delt with on a higher level than a normal 10 year-old.