Messages By: augustmoon61

Quote From: tinhil2000

This dad must have agonized all these years about his sexual orientation, especially as an ex cop where machismo and tough- guy image is everything, so I sympathize with him about the difficultly  he is facing with his daughters' inability to accept his new sexual identity. However expecting them to call him/her mom is definitely premature; he needs to give them time to absorb and understand the complexity of this issue and to continue to reassure them that his love for them is still and always the same. He should also understand that what their daughters feel, beside the embarrassment, confusion and anger, is the loss of the only father they have ever known. I'm sure Dr Phil will offer this family the kind of help they all need to be a family again.

Quote From: mimaof2brats1

come on girls grow up let your father go on with his life with or without you its his choice

and dad how can you do this to your daughters ???? you were a police officer for crying out loud dont you have any self respect for yourself??? have you always been like this ???? why wait this long ?? why didnt you do this along time ago before you got married or had children why make them suffer

i think you took the cowards way out  shame on you

Quote From: deloreshiles

It is always concerning when a parent or parents consider their own needs above their child/children's needs.

 

The dictionary defines dad/daddy as a name for a child's father . FATHER  IS DEFINED AS ; a male parent, fatherhood.

 

 MAN IS DEFINED AS AN ADULT HUMAN MALE.

 

FEMALE IS DEFINED AS ONE ;( the sex which bears offspring, relating to this sex or to women.)

 

PARENT IS DEFINED AS FATHER OR MOTHER, MALE OR FEMALE.

 

Michael is a very strong name with strong reference. It is difficult to understand, that these young ladies have had a daddy for years and are expected to call him mommy now?

 

No judgement on Michael, his life is his life, he for his own reasons chooses to appear to be female, whatever.

 

How can his daughters see him as a woman, when in their memory banks daddy was father and male.

 

Like it or not, there is a reason why children need a male and female as parents, you can paint over a stop sign on a street, it is still a stop sign.

 

Michael chooses to be no more,  this is his choice, why do his children have to see their daddy as a Kayla?  I believe Michael is their dad and always will be, Kayla is another entity.

 

Hope one day they can understand the reason why daddy had to leave. Maybe find a friend in Kayla, she is not daddy nor ever can be. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Quote From: afraid

really in all honesty only one is still a child ,  i think at age 21 you are considered a adult, and really his timing couldn't have been any better, just stop and think for a sec, had he decided to become a woman when he was a young man those children wound not be here, and as for the girls blaming themselves I'm not sure this is the case here, their dad cant help what he is or how he feels, he has to be living a living hell himself, and i just don't know why he cant be a dad and a woman, Oprah had a man on her show that is pregnant, so hes going to be both mom and dad all rolled into one,

Quote From: bright_gurl76

I think those girls are being fed the wrong information. They do not know how to put themselves in his shoes. Yes, they do need counseling ...the lot of them.
It's just ignorant for the OLDEST girl (in this day in age) to say Kayla should just be a man again for thier sake. And I wonder where she's getting that input because I don't think it's just the girls speaking.
There are millions of people who do not know how to show emotion... that doesn't mean they don't have feelings. But it does mean they don't know how to deal with those feelings.

Quote From: karynm8621

Thank you for your kind words.

 

I think Dr Phil should have explained the need to transition and its effects. He then should have spelled out how Mikayla dropped the ball in each circumstance. I feel for those girls with all my heart because quite honestly this was handles very very poorly. Even my wife tonight questioned whether or not Mikayla was even in counseling because she should have had the tools to handle this properly.

 

One of the other things that borke my heart in this was the emotional impact. Most Transsexual women have the same compassion and nuturing nature as gender born women. How she could not be emotional at the pain was a suprise to even me. I was to the point of tears for these poor girls

 

 

Quote From: gwarrior6

 

Why is it barbaric?  People's body parts are removed all the time surgically for any variety of reasons.  Cancer, mutilation, reconstruction, etc.  They're not using a machete for crying out loud!  This isn't something that she woke up one day and said "I think I'll be a lady today".  No, this is the product of years of feeling like a woman in the wrong body.

 

Therapy isn't going to "fix" her.  It'll help her with the transition and then help repair the relationships with her kids, that's the reason she should go to therapy, not because she needs to have emotions.  She's keeping her kids at a distance because she's afraid of rejection, which is understandable.  That's why she seems so cold.

 

I'm sorry, but Christine is such an idealist, it makes me gag.  In her poem, she talks about her future family, and that her kids will "always have their dad".  How does she know that?  How does she know that her future baby daddy won't  do the same thing her dad did, or divorce her, or die?  She doesn't, life is like that.  Christine needs to learn to deal with the fact that life isn't perfect, or hers is going to be miserable.  She has to learn to compromise and deal with adversity, because from what I've seen on the show, she can't.

 

That being said, Kayla could've handled the situation better, but I think she honestly wants a relationship with her daughters.  This isn't about emotions and getting in touch with his feminine side....this is an honest desire to BE a woman, not to have feelings. 

Quote From: eileenjeanne

For a person as great as you feel you are, I had not seen you get into the two wives! Why do I ask this of you? Did you ever think that it was because of these two women's hate for Kayla, did everything possible to make their daughters hate their dad?  Did you even think of asking the two ex -wives if Kayla did try to communicate with her daughters, only for the two-ex-wives never tell them of this.  There are so many questions you should of asked the two ex-wives, their mothers  brain washing their children to hate what their dad has done!

Don't throw stones until you know the ENTIRE STORY!!!! Lastly...Look at the show again and please tell me that Kayla did not show any emotion!  She held back her tears and feelings. Why... I'm not able to say why, but she was very much torn apart being victimized by you, Dr. Phil!  Look again at the video and look at the two ex-wives expressions... I didn't see them cry, Did you? What I saw on their faces were, mission accomplished, Our daughters hate him! 

Bring them back for part 2 Dr. Phil... Tear them apart like you had done with Kayla! you just may learn about "Hail hath no fury  like A Woman's Scorn!"