Messages By: suebonnetsue

• The fact that I have children, means nothing with regards to how I feel about what I viewed on this show, from a parent and a daughter stand point. Personally, I would never favor one child, over another and I think it is despicable that Sonja does! I also wouldn't ever treat my children in the manner that Sonja did Lisa or vise versa for that matter!! My point with my kids is that if my child ever dwelled on what they gain from my death, I would be upset too.
• Sonja was far from perfect, but having a daughter that thinks it's ok to constantly talk about the mom's will, as if her mom's death can't come quick enough, is disgusting and wrong! It doesn't matter the circumstances,,, it's wrong!!!!! There are many other things she COULD be focusing on rather than the will!
•  IT IS SICK,, that Lisa dwells on the will, the will,,,, THE WILL!!! What kind of a person does that? That was her main focus! Even Lisa's daughter went on about the will! IF the focus is not the will and since they do obviously have SO many other problems, Lisa should have focused on those,,, at least those things wouldn't be about her gaining from her mother's death!!!!
•  What Sonja did with regards to the little sisters birth, was WRONG and I don't understand it! I never said it was right!! That alone causes problems that last a lifetime between siblings and there is no excuse for it. But Lisa came off like a jealous child, blaming the little sister. Sonja pitted those girls against each other and I pray that they can see around that and move on.
•  Sonja IS at fault and so IS Lisa,, but someone needs to be the bigger person and start getting back on the right path! I personally just feel like Lisa shouldn't concern herself with what she wants to gain from her mom's death! Nothing good can come from that.  

You have it wrong, Lisa own half of the land already no will needed, so are you saying that Lisa should get half of the other 4 acres that Sonja owns?  if so then that means that Sonja would be entitled to half of what Lisa owns, if Lisa dies first.

where in the show did you hear Lisa say anything about love, just the will

Well espically to the last part about edcuating the public. I'm not sure if Dr. Phil understands that he is dealing with a person who has a personality disorder. Men of this type tend to be narcissists and women borderlines. She was the most evil one I have seen! Dr. Phil has a terrific staff and somebody picked up on that, they had too. He either knows better than to call a boderline and boderline and sticks to things that will get her attention i.e. you will die lonely which appeals to their tremendous fear of abandonment or is completely clueless to the fact that he is not dealing with a normal person cabable of reasoning in a normal manner.

Any type of enlightenment on this subject would be emensely helpful. Most people dealing with people who are sick like Sonya just keep trying hoping and believing that the person is normal. They leave tremendous scars on those around them and most people are clueless. This isn't a pancake! it doesn't have two sides its like dealing with a drug addict or worse. PLEASE DO A SHOW THAT DISCUSSES NARCISSISTS/BODERLINES a panel promo a book or something!!!!! These people are monsters... real life monsters. I swear that whomever invented the idea of a vampire did it because they were involved with one of these people. It is more important than dealing with drunk teenagers or overweight moms and if it doesn't fit inthe scope of Dr. Phil then maybe Oprah should do it. It's been around for a long time but nobody has really sat down and edcuated the public.

Familys and innocent people are destroyed by these people and telling family memebers that it's there fault or implying that they are somehow wrong, espically to person raised by one of those people is nothing short of ABUSE!  Lisa is not to blame for anything she needs help to understand her mother and set boundaries and so does Sara! She does need to hear Dr. Phil say it isn't her fault because it isn't. She trusts that he is helping her and he is not he is contributing to the abuse. 

I have a mother just like Sonja.  As an adult I finally had to come to the realization that my mother just does not and will never love me as I feel a mother should love a child.  After a lot of tears and years of my own mother's style of abuse I am happy to say that I no longer have any contact with her.  I no longer have to receive her hatefulness because I have made a conscience decisiong to be free of her.  It litterally is freeing...Lisa just needs to make a clean break and live and love her own family.  The only thing that I regret about not doing it sooner is that I missed wonderful things that my own children were doing because I was so hurt by things my own mother would do.  Rid yourself of that woman, and work every day to live and fully love your own family in the moment.  Lisa...You can be a better person without that costic woman in your life.  Even as I write this, and I think about the similiarities between Sonja and my own mother it makes me sick for Lisa.  I feel badly for her because I know how badly it hurts, but once you can free yourself of Sonja you will feel so much better. 

I realize that Dr. Phil is a relationship healer, but some relationships aren't worth it, and sometimes it's hard when the relationship that does not need to be fixed, repaired or healed is the one between a mother and a child.  Sonja will end up doing everything she has already done again!!!!

If where going to assume what could of happen, well maybe she out of the will because she called the police on her mother, and all the other things said on the show that Lisa did, got her thrown out of the will. it works both ways. we could assume that Lisa has been a troubled person all her life and caused nothing but grief to her mother, that would explain alot. Maybe thats why she didn't want her at hospital? she didn't want trouble on such a good day.

Assuming works both way, either is right, until proven,

and if Sonja turned Lisa that way? then who turned Sonja that way, and shouldn't you give her as much understanding? Damaged is damaged, one is 40 something and one is 60 something, whats the difference? I hold them to the same standing, both are = in their bad action, and both should be held accountable for them.......................