Messages By: made1024

I totally agree with this.  I gained 70 lbs with my pregnancy and 3 weeks after having the baby he became verbally abusive about my hair  not being brushed, my not going to the gym (I had a csection so I had to wait 8 weeks), then it was my nails were not done, my underwear was not the one he liked and on and on.  I lost all my pregnancy weight and was down to 147 when he started with the fat issue, I'd go work out and he'd say just like Roger "your wasting your time", he never noticed a difference, there was no cuddling, no touching, no kind words, not even on cards that came from my daughter but were written by him.  I am still with this man who has DESTROYED me emotionally and psychologically, I have gained 40 lbs, I am so ashamed of my physique that I don't even want to go out in public. He on the other hand goes out with his buddies to happy hours, has cheated on me although "it doesn't count as cheating" bc it was during the time(s) he has moved into his moms house.  His abusive, hurtful words have made me ashamed to even look in the mirror.  He once said "do you think I can be attracted to someone who's fat hangs from her thighs when you lift your leg during sex?" - we haven't had sex since.  I KNOW he wants out but won't leave, that's the other part of the story.  I constantly get complimented (even at my current weight) by men, men flirt with me, but it doesn't matter to me.  Men like this will never change, I do believe it is their own low self esteem that makes them hurt others, but I got wrapped up in his scheme and now I'm the one hurting.  All I can say to someone in this situation is GET OUT AND FAST, don't be like me and so many others, especially with kids they pick up on EVERYTHING and will eventually become like them!!

my husband just dumped me after 6 yrs of marriage and a soon to be 4 year old daughter bc he is embarrased of the way I look.  He won't go out with me in public let alone to an area where a bathing suit is required.  He thinks I am fat, flabby, old and not interested in making a change. Unfortunately none of that is true.  I am desperate to go back to my prepregnancy body that although might not have been perfect, at least I got to go to the beach and wear a bikini!!! How on earth do people get so lucky as to get a make over? it seems like in Miami, which is the capital of beaches, we never get these opportunities! HELP