Messages By: renschi

Sometimes in life you have to be cruel to be kind.  You decided to take this person as your wife, of all the woman that you know,  hundreds? thousands?  to be the one you want to love, charish, to be with, etc..

In a mariage God is first, then you and your wife, and a lot of work, there is no space for someone else as well.  Love your mom, but stand up for your mariage, do the right thing, and be happy.

This is so tragic, their lives have to be full of emptyness!! So beauty minded, earthly no good!

I do believe that both of them try to hide a very, very sad heart, issues that they did not dealt with or know how to deal with. This is a cover they are living for their real self.

Renschi Weideman
South Africa

 You were the lucky winner of a very, very bad experience to start your wedding day. You had the right to feel frustrated,  angry,  disappointed, and all the feelings you had experienced. 

 A FRIENDLY reminder, just maybe,  you forgot it was your husbands wedding day as well. I am sure he wanted  just as perfect  day as you could ever imagine it must be for both of you. You have to let go, step over it and reach for the ocean.  You may not be frozen for the rest of your life about one day, you are loosing out on all the other 364 days per year!!

You cannot discover new oceans unless you have courage to loose sight of the shore... the Bible tells us that there is a time for everything.  Forgive and let go, you are missing out so much of live, and you are doing it to yourself and to your mariage. You may think that you are weak, but God keep you strong! The weaker you are, only then  He can work trough you, if you allow Him.

When you start to thank God every day for what He is providing you with, your negative experience of your wedding day will soon be in the past where it belong.

I do have empathy with you and your husband, and believe me, the sun can shine again on both of you, you have to take the first step.

Renschi

Children are not born gay or lesbian, they are made that way by people and that is so sad for everybody involved.  Some one close to the family circle hurt that child emotionally on a very young age. Without sometimes parents knowing it and without professional help when needed. It is an emotionally block that this children have to help them cope with a much delicate and painful experience. (most of the time without realizing  themselves)

Parents, please just love your child and accept him or her the way they want to be, reject the lifestyle (sin) not the child.

RW