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August 1, 2008, 4:48 pm PDT
She was my step daughter too, but now she's my daughter
Quote From: janetrocksOur legal curfew is 12 pm. That is when she is supposed to be in. I was trying to give her freedom by not checking with parents that she would be at that house since she will be 18 in 2 months. I was trying to do baby steps with her and having her responsible for being where she said she would be.
Yes, we bought the car and pay the cell bill. I never had things growing up and I want my kids to have access. I felt like if I gave them the things they need to succeed, they would go far in life. example: I thought if they had a car, they could go to work and a cell was for her protection so she could call. All of this has backfired. We have 5 girls and the first three this thinking has not been good with them. I am unsure how we will handle the last 2. This daughter that got in trouble is my step-daughter, so I am not only fighting her to realize the crowd she is with will put her in harm I am also fighting her mother who thinks the boy is great and encourages them to stay together. I didn't explain all the details about her being my step daughter too, and that her mom and dad didn't agree about anything, so she was without boundaries.
Please work with her dad in counseling to learn how to help this girl. You can't do anything about her mom.
Trust me on this. I had no idea how to be a step mom. Without professional help our daughter would have hurt herself severely.
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