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May 29, 2006, 9:27 pm PDT

I understand how she felt

Reguarding the girl who was molested and did not tell for fear of tearing her family apart. That happened to me except it was my real father who was molesting me. While my whole family (mother,sister,brothers and my grandmother) were in the living room  my dad would call me into his room the room he shared with my mother. And there he would molest me. Not once did my mother ever come in to see what was going on. I use to wonder what would happen if I told?  There was sooo much stuff going on that it would be hard to explain but just recently while talking to my mother on the phone (I dont remember what we were talking about) but she guessed and started to cry and apologize but it is to late for that. I am 55 years old now and from watching the Oprah and Dr. Phil shows I have learned why I am the way I am and I do not use this as a excuse for any  problems I have had in my years as a adult but I now understand alot of things. I always wondered how things would just pop in my head and I would realize things and could relate to some guest on the shows because the same things would happen to me. My relationship with my mother is more strained then ever I just cant get over or understand why she would not check to see what was happening in her room. She asked me if he did the same thing to my sister since she also was called in the room. I told her that she says no but I will bet otherwise. My sister and I are not close and never have been it has been 12 years since I talked with her and probably wont be talking to her before we both die. My daughter always wished she had a sister and most people dont even know that I have a sister since I never talk about her but I think if we had had different parents we would have been close. My broher was also abused by my father but not sexually. He was beaten for nothing. He grew up to be very very hard on his boys so much so that I could not be around him without saying something. And so today we are not close either. Most people are suprise that I have a brother and a sister. I have even been told they thought I was a only child it is just to painful to talk about my family so I dont. But the two people who were suppose to protect us never did. Do I wish I had spoken up I can not say I just know that even though I was afraid speaking up would tear our family apart keeping quiet did the same thing.
 
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September 15, 2006, 11:35 pm PDT

You Go Girl!

I think it is great that Audry is having fun and enjoying life at her age. Her daughter should be proud of her mom. I wish my mom was more like Audry. She is done raising a family and now it is her time to have fun. Bravo for her.

 

Mercy
 
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September 15, 2006, 11:40 pm PDT

Shame on you

I dont believe that she is only this way in the store. I am surprised that she has not been sued for hitting people. That is assult what she was talking about. Isn't it. I dont like it when people get right up on me in the check out line but I would never throw things at them. That women is lucky she has not be arrested.

 

Mercy
 
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September 20, 2006, 7:38 pm PDT

I think It is a slap in your families face

When I first meet my boy-friend he was the best. Was hard working , loving, took good care of me, was my everything I thought where has he been all my life. Well he is still all those things. I found out much later that he had been afraid to tell me about his past life for fear that I would leave him. Well he had been in prison and has a record. BUT I did not ever know that side of him and could not even believe that he did those things. He did not kill anyone. So having said that. Dr. Phil is sooooooo right (but he knew that hehhe) You dont know this guy and he probably is just doing a con job on you. What a slap in your mom's face to even think about being in love with this guy. Guys tell women enough lies when they are in the free world that when they are lockedup they will say and do anything to get out. He is having the last laugh on you and your family. Forgive him yes (I guess) BUT want a relationship with him NO!!! Your brother is probably turning over in his grave.

 

Mercy
 
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October 4, 2006, 7:45 am PDT

Marry me or else what?????

I dont know about anyone else but I really wanted to see you take the ring off your finger and give it back. I was thinking about saying something about him to you BUT after eight years I think you are the one that needs to take the BOY by the you know what and kick him to the curb. I think the light bulb came on when he said "I would say that just to get what I wanted done." So he is admitting that he has been dangling "Marriage" in front of your face for eight years "to get what he wants". He is only thinking of himself and that is not what a husband should do. I was going to trash him but he is not worth the words. Soooooo I hope you went home and packed your things and left. It will take time and a lot of tears BUT you will in the words of Gloria Gaynor "You will Survive."  I did. I got the song and played it every time I felt down. It lifted me up and I did survive and so will you.
 
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October 4, 2006, 7:51 am PDT

Mary Mary Mary

Do you really think that by leaving all those hints and things around that you would have a good marriage if he gave in??? He would always resent the fact that he was forced to marry you. If he told you from the begining you must have known what you were getting into. If marriage is that important to you then find someone who wants to get married and live happy. Because if you continue to make him feel that he has to marry you you will not be married long.
 
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November 4, 2006, 12:11 am PST

I Picked up on that also

Quote From: redfire

  I'm curious as to way he LOCKED the bathroom door to change a diaper?!?! I just can't find a way to justify that action. WHY did he deem that necessary? If I understood correctly, they were at a family members house. Now I realize many people have different degrees of modesty, but she was 2 years old, potty training I'm sure, I don't know, I just don't understand the necessity of locking the door. That stood out to me above all!!

 Something else that caught my attention was the fact she stated "THEY touched my pee pee". I know other people picked up on that too. They had too!! This poor little girl!!

 I fully admit, Dr. Phil opened my eyes to how the actions of of the maternal side impacted the situation. I see what he is saying. This all is so sad!!

 I LOVE this show and Dr. Phil and his family. They do so much good with their position, influence, and intellect. They all deserve to be applauded!! It just saddens me terribly, that there is a market, even worse, a NEED for this type of show.

 Based on my personal belief, he's hurting her. It's what my gut tells me.... please believe me when I say... I KNOW. I've known as long as I can remember. I told... nothing was done. So, my whole life I thought it was OK. So I never said another word. I just thought it was what I was for. Today is the first time in over 30 years I've said a word. I know where I am in my life and I don't want that beautiful angel to be were I am. This is the first time I've even acknowledged it myself.

 So no matter what, she has to be protected!!! I KNOW DR. PHIL WILL PROTECT HER!!! He knows no other way.

 

 Thank You

I feel the same way. I think that step mother is also to blame. And I also agree that the father probably is guilty. Otherwise he would have been able to answer the questions with no problem. He was flushed with guilt. I was molested and I feel that this father is doing something and that his wife is involved.

 

Thanks
 
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November 4, 2006, 12:14 am PST

I totally agree

Quote From: witchysybil

The FIRST time that baby came home crying and saying...what she said...would have been the last time she would have gone there.

Obviously there is something going on.   He is defiantly guilty, ...I hate to judge like this, but after watching his one on one with Dr Phil...I was convinced.

His pausing when asked the question about the tongue...Like they caught him off guard and he didn't have and excuse for that one, so he was trying to come up with something that would cover it, like he had done with everything else.  His body language told alot more than his words for sure.  And I believe his wife is either in on it, or defiantly nows about it!

I was molested by a step-uncle when I was young,  I told my mom...My step-father went over there, and he told my step-dad we were just horsing around, playing......(sound familiar)

I hate to say this, because I was soooooo hoping it not to be true, but I am afraid it is. 
If this man isn't guilty, I'll defiantly eat my words.

For that poor baby to be put through that ....true or not, it is damaging that child either way!!!

Its a sick sad situation and it sure left me in tears.

 I know   Dr. Phil cares about the children so I am grateful he is involved, and hopefully he won't leave that child in that situation.

Personally I don't know what I would have done to that man, but I can guarantee he would have never seen that child again!!

As far as the diaper thing.... uh uh..... I have two boys and no matter Where we have been I have Never locked the door to change A diaper.    WHY would you????

 

The first time my child said something like that or cried everytime that she was suppose to go with her father. I would have never let her go again. I was molested and was very very protected of my daughter and no way would she have gone if I knew that her father hurt her.

 

Mercy
 
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November 17, 2006, 11:16 pm PST

I know exactly what the daughter is feeling

I went through the same thing . My dad would call me to his room with my mom, sister and brothers and grandmother all in the front room and would molest me. Never once did my mom come in to check what was going on. Apprently he was molesting every women in our family he could get his hands on. And my mother says she never never knew. Well he died when I was 21 and still today I have problems with men and now that my mother knows I can not visit her alot. I dont even like to really talk to her actually. Because I just can not understand Why she would never ever think to come check on me. I was very protective of my daughter and was always after her if someone touched her to let me know that I would believe her BUT that it had better be the truth. I would stand by her 100%. I know now from watching Dr. Phil and Oprah what it was that happened to me and why I am the way I am.
 
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January 27, 2007, 11:04 am PST

I feel sorry for her girls

With this the only way they see men the cycle will not end. The mother needs help our her daughter are going to be hurt in the worse way. I can not understand why she would put her daughters in harms way. Sure he is nice to the girls now BUT he is in jail and he is being watched will visiting and outside he will not be. So I think she should either put her girls in another place to live health lives or give up these men who are not good!!!!!!!!!
 
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