Messages By: bobbinmatt

I won't be on tonight either...my best friend is coming over for scary movies....we're watching "Boogyman" "Hide and Seek" and "The Grudge" don't know if any of them will be any good or even scary for that matter but we're hoping:)

Yep life is much better without porn....just wish we could do something about how graphic commercials and tv are getting....it is everywhere really!!

we only rented the Grudge and boogyman, hide and seek were all rented and sice we weren't going to be able to start watching the movies until after 9 we thought two would be enough anyways:) The Grudge was pretty good....i thought the ending stunk but it actually had some creepy parts. Boogyman was even better I think. I like getting creeped out, but honestly it is the pshycological thrillers that seem to scare me more....or more realistic supernatural movies. Between the movies and chatting it was 3:30 by the time my friend left and the kids got up at 6:15 today. i'm tired!!

I can't remember it exactly, i'll look around and see if i can find it...i deleted it by accident and it's my favorite quote:(    

     Anyways, it went something like this??? 

      When you stand at a cliff at the edge of everything you've known about to step into darkness you will find one of two things that you will find a floor solid beneath your feet or life will teach you to fly. 

I know that's not exactly it and not as well put as the original but I think that is the quote you were talking about. Like I said if I find it (and I hope I do!!!) I'll post it to you. I'm not here very often at all anymore, a little too negative for me these days. Do you still have my e-mail address (if you do please don't post it here....either of them) if you do go ahead and e-mail me and when (if) I find it i could e-mail it to you....I don't have your e-mail anymore (sorry).  

Hope things are going well for you! How are those babies doing, groing crazy fast I bet!! 

Take care, 

Bobbinmatt 

if you still have theirs, you could e-mail them and get mine. Ummmm still can't find the quote though, not that i've had a chance to look really....i know i have the book still it's just a matter of finding it in my organized chaos:) 

take care you!! 

Bobbi 

Hello to everyone, 

     I just wanted to pop in again, like i do every once in a while to let those who are going through a rough time because of porn know that there is hope. I found out my hubby was looking at porn on the internet when i was about 8 months preg. with our 4th baby. I was floored and lost. I felt like everything i based our marriage on was a lie. I felt like i didn't really know my husband and questioned his love for me. I mean how could he love me and hurt me so badly? Well, it was his reaction and support that really allowed me to be willing to try to work past my pain. He saw the pain he caused me and it changed him, he understood in that moment what he had done, and what he stood to loose. He never for one moment blamed me, he never said, if only this or you should have that...he said what he did was stupid and selfish and he just didn't allow himself to think it through to the point of how badly it would hurt me. He told me it was unimportant to him he would never do it again and then the biggie he was patient with me. The pain and the mistrust lingered and still pops into my mind every now and then. He knew why I felt that way, he knew he caused me to feel that way and would do whatever he could to help me through those tought times...that often meant just giving me a hug and saying he was sorry for hurting me so badly. Our marriage has grown, we are closer than ever, we are more romantic with each other and we have both found a new appreciation for eachother and the life that we share.  It was hell and I wish that we could have reached this place in our relationship without having to have gone through all that but it is great now...amazing now. There is hope, things can work out if your guy realizes the pain he has caused and truely regrets it and supports you through all you have to work through it can work out and be better than ever!   

Just thought I would let any of the new people who may be feeling as lost as I did, know there is hope....things can get better:) 

I am a Christian but am not familiar with specific passages of the Bible. I was wondering if you could clerify this post of yours for me. You say the bible comments on sexual obligation of the wife, but then you say it is meant to tell you only that you can feel comfortable having a sexual relationship with your spouse. Does the Bible say how often the wife should satisfy her husband, or does it also say how a husband should treat his wife? I know that women sometimes withold sex from their husbands (not the way to fix a marriage by the way) because their husbands aren't treating them with honour and respect. I also know that some husbands do not treat their wife with honour and respect because she is witholding sex from him. Sometimes this vicious circle has gone on so long no one can remember who started it or why. Anyways....sorry to ramble on but  I was just wondering if you could clear that up for me. :) thanks