Messages By: mstmbond

Your relationship sounds quite a bit like mine.  I'm sorry you are going through this. 

1ST of all...  So what if your 40.  You possibly have 1/2 your life left.  Don't think just because your 40 your to old or something...

Anyway, I have/had the alcoholic.  I'm trying to get over him for the 100TH time.  I know the road your walking and the feelings your having.  I have/had them. 

All the stuff he does to you isn't your fault.  NO, you can't walk on egg shells to make him happy.  If it isn't one thing that will make him mad, it will be 10 others. 

I bet you can think of thousands of great or good times you've had with him.  Now, think of the bad times.  The bad times were probably so bad that they cancel out hundreds of the good times.  That adds up quick and pretty soon your in the negative.

I am not trying to lecture you.  I'm not even trying to beat you up.  All I'm saying is...  I am walking the same stupid road you are.  Good luck to both of us.

I'll say a prayer for you.  If you know how to e-mail through this site, you can e-mail me.  I just signed up today.  I haven't had a chance to really look at everything.

When I read the messages about picking up rocks in the sun, I just about laughed.  I'm sorry, I had to do that and it wasn't for discipline.  Some people do physical labor and some don't.  It was hard work but you knew you had worked when the day was done.

We were disciplined as children with the belt and I have to say that you knew you better be good.  I think that some discipline can be over bored but come on, have you been to the schools lately?

Unfortunately some children are abused.  I would hope the man who made the child pick rocks in the hot sun at least watched him.  There is a difference between doing out of a necessity and for punishment.  I hope and wish that we can learn and do better with our kids.

I'm so glad I watched this.  I do not date a married man but I have the emotions for the looser.  After being abused by my "looser" who is also an "alcoholic" I tried to get over him.  The entire 3 years went from bad to worse.  He did nasty things to me (to numerous to mention) and I was always there for him.  I've read all the book from Dr. Phil but just can't jump over the fence to the finish line.

Mind you, I can help my girlfriends with their "looser" but I don't take my own advice.  I guess they are more important than myself.  I know that isn't true but maybe it is, why do I let the "looser" do the things to me that I do.

Anyway, after seeing how sad Paige was/is (I think that was her name) I took a better look at myself.  I do a lot of the same things she does.  It made me want to get ILL.

I am on the road to recovery from this "looser" and I thank Page for that.  I do not want to have the same emotions that she does anymore.  I don't want to act like that ever again.  Not over a "looser" anyway.  Maybe acting isn't the correct word, maybe I should use...  thoughts.

Great show and I'll try and watch the rest.  Maybe I'll learn how to choose better men and RUN when I know I should.  I do know that I should have run a long time ago from my "looser."

I believe that a parent should be able to drop the child off in a safe place.  I think it would be in the best interest of the child.  Not all people are capable of taking care of children.  Why did they have them?  Who knows but with all the dysfunctional people in this world, give the child a chance.  Let them go somewhere where they can be loved and taken care of.

I'm not sure about dropping off a teenager.  I thought about that myself when things got bad but I was capable of handling it.  Thank God because I love them very much.

Can we ask the question...  The state has laws protecting the child and putting the parent in a precarious position when a child is acting up.  They are told they can call the police and the parent will be prosecuted.  When a child tells a parent this and the parent is scared to do anything, whats a parent to do.

I'm really glad that some people have super kids.  Ones that don't get in trouble or try their parents.  BUT, when you are a good parent and have a child or two who act up, what avenues do you have?  Well, we can get them therapy but what if you can't afford it?

All I can say is...  Thank God I am not in that position anymore.  I wish people all the luck in the world and hope they get their children to adulthood safely.

Don't judge until you've walked a mile in THAT parents footsteps.

Wouldn't it be nice if you could get the cell phone company's to work with you.  They won't.  With all the technology out there, the cell phone company's refuse to help a parent.  WHY?  Because they won't make as much money.  Sad, isn't it.

I do agree that the cell phone should be taken away.  The 12 year old should have the cell phone placed where the sun doesn't shine and photograph that to send to her friends.  Come on, what are these kids thinking...  The worst thing about it is, she can take digital pictures and do the same thing.

I'm not sure how to make these kids realize the behavior they are participating in is unhealthy.  What do the boys think of her after she does this.  I'm sure they egg her on because I know adult men who do the same thing.

As for the Silvia drug...  The mother who LET'S her son do it has got to be kidding.  And we wonder why there is so much dysfunction in the world.  The other shocking thing is...  She is a freaking school teacher.  How would you like to have THAT as your child's teacher.

I may sound like a "no fun" type of person but we have lowered the standers in this country to a all time low.  God, help us all.