Messages By: susie1969

  I am a mother of 3 grown children and now they have babies of their own.  I am pround of being a Grandma.  Every mother goes through period in their lives, you get so tired and wonder if " I can make it".

Sure you can, children can really try your patients.  My first child was a boy and he never changed our lives at all.  He was a good baby and toddler and almost 3 yrs later I was given a set of identical twins. They were born a month early and had to stay in the hospital for 3 wks to grow.  I drove to the hospital daily to feed them.  They just plain did not want to eat.  They finally got to 5 pounds and we all went home to be a family.  Now I will say, the twins, sure changed our lives ( totally ).  The would not sleep  or eat very well and was up every hour crying.  I had to sleep at all, but mananged to keep the house clean, wash 80 diapers ( cloth ) a day plus all out clothes.  I even mananged to bake daily homemade ( not anything ) from a box.  I also had supper on the table.  Yes it was very trying times and I got very frustruted a lot..

We the girls were toddlers they would not takes naps and I remember crying and begging please girls just go to sleep.  I needed time to myself.  They did not sleep all night until they were 3 yrs old.  I praised God when that happened.  But, I made and they all grew up very well and were good kids. I never had to worry about anything with the 3 of them.  They all went off to college and are all married and have their own families.  My girls made a remark a few wks ago, Mom us girls wanted twins, we have changed our minds.  They said, Mom I do not know how you did it and all the baking you did daily.  They said they miss my baking and thank me for being the mother i was.  They said, we learned so much from you.  I am now 57 and look back and wondered , how did I do it.  I say my the grace of God.  God will never give you more then you can handle. 

Hang in there women,,,,, you can do.

How dare you talk about people who have been sexually assaulted.  Telling them to get over it OR cry me a river.  What a terrible thing to say to another.  I also was sexually assaulted by my father at the wonderful age of 9.  I finally told when I was 17.  It was years of struggle as my father was and still part of my life.  I finally got help at 50 and still work on it daily.  My father knew very well which daughter to pick. I kept quiet and never told because he would tell me nobody would believe and people know how kids make up stories.  So good little kept quiet until I could not take anymore.  The whole thing ruled most of my life and I was very protective of my own children to go as far as buying my girls stun guns.  How bad it that? Gheez.

But I have forgiven my father for me. I had too or I would have to live with it the rest of my life or his life. Yes I do have the right to hate him but, God would not want me doing that.  My father will answer for it in time.

Watching the show did bring tears to my eyes as I listened. I know only to well of the terrible things that can happen to a child. I attended 3 group sections for a 12 week each.  It made me grow as a person. But when asked about my feeling on this or that>>>>>>>> I had no idea. That took a few years and I still have trouble with that.  I know it will come in time.  People can hide what happened to them very well. People would have never guessed it happened to me as, I was the person who loved to help everyone else and am a [pretty funny person. You see you can cover a lot up.  I sing praises to all of you who have gone for help and the young people who ask for help is wonderful. I say open up and tell early so you can get on with your life.  It is not an easy road by no means. The first thing which, Dr. Phil is doing is to get Angry and know it was not your fault.  Don't live on "What ifs".  Bless all of you.