Messages By: kleesun

Man, I thought I was the only one on here who thought that.  Ha ha! 

Personally, I draw the line at "consenting adults".  I don't think the government should tell you what you can do with whom as long as everyone involved agrees of his/her own free will, everyone is old enough/mentally capable of making his/her own decisions, and possibly in the cases of people with HIV or other serious diseases who deceive others and knowingly have unprotected sex with them (not that the partner shouldn't be insisting on protection, but that will start another debate).  There is a lot of stuff that disgusts me and in which I would never, ever participate, but, hey, your life is your own.  I don't think I should insist that everyone else live by my standards so I hope they respect mine, as well. 

That said, spouses of cheaters are not "consenting".  Hygienically, you pretty much do sleep with everyone your partner sleeps with, which is a pretty revolting thought.   

Thank you.  Those are good points. 

I do think he's a creep, but that's separate from him being a police officer (although if he's a controlling person by nature I could imagine he might have picked that job because it makes him feel powerful or something).  Likewise, she definitely needs to decide what the boundaries are.  They both need to stop jerking the kids around.   

This made me a laugh (not at him, just in a general sort of way). 

I'm 28 and, my God, I don't think I could get a date if my life depended on it.  I admit it's my own fault--I got teased a lot as an adolescent and have zero self-confidence with men, so I tend to go right into platonic "buddies" mode before they have a chance to get any vaguely romantic ideas.  I have guy friends who are great people and who think I'm great, but that's it. 

I was talking to a friend on the phone a few weeks ago and we realized we'd both finally gotten over the body-image thing (at least for now).  Neither of us is pretty but we're not monsters, and she is tall, athletic, and has a million-dollar personality--any man that doesn't think she's awesome clearly has no taste.  Who wants a guy with no taste?   

We're just mad that the fashion industry doesn't think we're as perfect as we think we are.  I have a 27-inch waist, 41-inch hips, and big thighs, so there are virtually no pants in the world that fit me.  No flattering pants, at least.  I make myself skirts--I have the cutest skirts and the fashion Nazis don't get  my money.  I do need to be in better shape but it's simply because I need to take better care of myself, not because I'm overweight or want to be rail-thin (I am not overweight, and besides, I could starve myself to death and I would still be pear-shaped.  It's just my body type). 

So, in a nutshell--dude, it's probably something else.  I know it's my demeanor.  I expect men to pass me over because I learned when I was 12 that it hurts a lot less to be ignored than it does to be tormented, and if they do pay me positive attention, I shut them out.  My own fault.  It doesn't make me happy but it has nothing to do with my body.  I'm not stunning but I'm not really any worse off than any other girl, and I've seen plenty of other people who are "less attractive" (by conventional standards) than I am who are very happily un-single. 

I don't think any of it's that clear, but I can see how she could have hit him accidentally. 

A 16-year-old boy in my area was recently hit by a truck while riding his skateboard at night.  His friend told him to get out of the way but he assumed the truck would stop.  People--kids, often--assume that because they can see the headlights that the vehicle can see them clearly, but headlights are meant to light up the road in front of the car and don't light up very far ahead, nor do they light up the area to the sides of the car.  If he came out of the dark from the side of the street, she very well may not have been able to see him until it was too late, especially if she was already upset and distracted. 

I agree that she killed him but I don't believe that she intended to and I don't think she should be in for twelve years.  There are different degrees of "didn't mean to kill him".  People shake babies to shut them up but "don't mean to kill them", but that's an act intended to punish.  It's malicious.  If she couldn't see him in the darkness on the side of the road, it was simply a very bad accident.  As for trying to disguise it--for God's sake, is there anyone on here who wouldn't panic if they were seventeen and wrecked the car, then realized they might have hit someone??  It's easy to say you'd stick around and own up to it but realistically, if it were you, it would be extremely hard.  I'm sorry for his family but vengeance won't bring him back, either.   

You don't think she'll have to live with this for the rest of her life?  Not just knowing what happened but having a prison sentence on her record?  Do you ever wonder why so many ex-convicts go back to crime?  Among other things, because they're essentially not allowed to lead respectable lives.  This girl had a good start--it's not like she's illiterate and addicted to something. 

Personally, I'd like to see the police stuff reexamined along with her trial things.  I'm not sure I believe he flew that far and/or she was going that fast.  Most residential areas have curving streets that are lined with parked cars and you can't possibly go that fast and stay on the road. 

No, the Bible says that, and it's the "word of God" as interpreted by . . . men.  Not that I want to start a theological argument, but God did not write the Bible (that's why there are different Gospels).  Besides, last time I checked, America is a land of religious freedom and the Bible isn't everyone's Word. 

Aside from that . . . what a bunch of immature people, husbands and wives alike.  I appreciate that moms need some time to be themselves but, my goodness, what kind of True Self is that?  Drinking until 6:00 in the morning and snorting cocaine?  Sounds to me like she has no idea who she is or she would find something constructive to do with her time.  I will never understand why people think they have to be drunk to have a good time.  (Yes, I do go to bars occasionally if there's a band I want to see, but I'm not drinking or using drugs or grifting drinks of guys, and it's not my only hobby.  I do it very, very, rarely, and I don't have a husband or kids waiting for me, or I'd do it even less.) 

And the second couple--okay, they both work outside the home, they can both do housework.  "Doesn't occur to her", my foot--she knows he'll do it if she just leaves it long enough.  (Dr. Phil has offered breast reductions before, so maybe this woman should be the next candidate, then she'll have no reason to complain.)  Her husband needs to stop complaining and cussing her out, but she needs to get up and do her part.  She needs to go to a doctor and get help with her arthritis, too, if it's that big a problem (I imagine that if she's in that much pain it must be affecting her job performance, too). 

I'm a girl but I get tired of people generalizing all this bad stuff about men.  My dad (who works full-time) and my brother (who is a full-time grad student, works, and is married to another grad student who is even busier than he is) both do most of the housework in their own homes.  My mother has multiple health problems that prevent her from doing most physical things, and sensitivities that mean she can't be in close contact with a lot of dust or cleansers.  She runs a lot of other things around the house but Dad and I do the cleaning.  Dad has always done a lot of cleaning (cooking, laundry, diapers, yard work, fixes the cars, etc. etc.) and never has to be asked. 

I'm not saying all men are perfect.  All women aren't perfect, either.  I know most people post based on their personal experience, but I wish they'd remember for a second that personal experience is just that, and not make it a blanket indictment. 

Next time, take them to animal control, or someplace where they have to pay each time to get them out of hock. 

Sorry, I love dogs but it's not safe for ANYONE to have loose dogs running around--it's obviously not safe for the dogs and it's not safe for kids.  It's gross when somebody else's dog poops in your yard, and I would be totally traumatized if I accidentally hit a dog with my car, even if it wasn't my fault. 

You're lucky he was thrilled.  Ii'm a girl, but if I were a guy who said he didn't want kids and my girlfriend did this to me, I'd be really mad.  Didn't Phil do a show on Conception Deception a few months ago?  Personally, I think this was a selfish, immature, and dishonest thing to do on your part.  I'm glad that it turned out OK but it wasn't fair to him. 

My parents were 29 and 31 when I and my brother were born.  My brother is 26 and married but they are both in graduate school and will be flat broke for the next six years, and then have mounds of student loans--at this point, they say they don't think they want kids at all even if they could afford them any time soon.  I do want kids but I'm 28 and have been hopelessly single since college so I'm not holding my breath.   

For everybody out there who thinks that they want to have kids young so they aren't "too old" to do the fun stuff once their kids are out of the house--don't worry.  My dad will be 60 in a few weeks and hasn't slowed down a bit--he recently bought himself a small truck so he can take his canoe with him more easily when he goes camping.  My mother is 58, an organ-transplant patient, and has more energy than she has had since I was in high school.  It's more important to stay active and take care of yourselves if you want to be younger longer.