Messages By: aanubis

I just saw that Grandpa will be returning to the show for a follow-up / conclusion. I am really glad he chose to come back. This man needs help along with the rest of the family.

One question which didn't seem to get addressed is, was he the victim of sexual abuse when he was a child?

I have seen alot of hate towards this man and although his actions are unconscionable, he needs help! I subscribe to the belief that all people are inherently good. They just make really bad choices based on fears or because they were themselves victims.

It is very easy to condemn a person to the fiery pits of hell but much harder to try and help them and give them the treatment they need. Grandpa may have committed crimes and he should be held in account for those crimes but unless he can come to terms with what really happened, the cycle will continue. I believe acute psychiatric care may be one of the avenues to be explored for this to happen. Some serious personal exploration would be part of this of course.

I can't wait to see the show when it gets aired!

I am so grateful that Dr. Phil is willing to take on issues such as this and share it with us.

I would like to hear what others reading this think!

Aan

My fiance, who is now divorced, shares custody with the father and she is frequently having to deal with a problem. Their 8 year old son will see something in the store, and ask his mom to buy it for him. Sometimes she agrees but frequently she does not because she believes that buying things on a whim sets a bad example. Very often, these things are trinkets by the cash register.

When her son goes back to dads place and she doesn't have him for a couple of weeks, her son will come back and say "Remember that thing you wouldn't buy me? Well dad bought it for me"

She has asked her ex-husband not to do these things out of respect but he continues to do it anyways. Its like he is trying to buy his son's love or something. It seems like he is attempting to undermine her.

Any advice would be appreciated!