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October 20, 2008, 10:45 pm PDT
Don't Give Up 40something
Quote From: mikelinaI'm 43 (almost) with 2 kids that are with me pretty much year-round. My ex left me for a woman 7 years younger than me and moved 1/2 way across the country last year to be with her. Divorce has been final since this spring. Besides being too busy to get back out on the dating scene because I'm the sole parent, I'm not feeling my prospects are all that promising. I've been told I look younger than my age, but if a woman who's 30 is having trouble getting dates what are my chances looking like I'm in my mid-30's? I'm 42 and in a similar boat. I've been divorced for almost 10 yrs to a dead beat dad so needless to say I too am a sole parent. With limited time to spend on getting to know a guy I have been thru a few "throw-backs" and glad I did. If I learned anything from my divorce it's to have faith and put your confidence face first. Don't give up, he's out there somewhere. One thing I can say about the dating scene at our age (but look like we're in our 30's) is that shifting the focus to mysef and accomplishing things that please me first instead of focusing on looking for "Mr Right" pays off. Self confidence in a woman is attractive to a decent man. Never make a guy the center of your world. If a guy "fits" into my schedule and is understanding to my role as a parent, then I know he will likely have respect for me as a partner. I learned not to"lose myself" in a relationship. I am fortunate to have met a good guy about 5 yrs ago and even though it's going slow due to commitment issues and an ex-wife issue (another show) I'm confident that in the end we will have grown and respected "our" relationship enough not to make mistakes and go thru another divorce each. Good luck!
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