Messages By: lilwoman59

I  can't believe this woman has stayed with this man for the past 11 years.  Is she as crazy as he is???? There must be something that I'm missing here.  i can understand her being scared to leave because of his obsessiveness and controlling  ways, but Really!!! life is and can be better than this.  To me the scariest thing is that I believe he is capable of much more than we are hearing.  He doesn't seem to have a conscience, or any morals, plus in his twisted way he blames her for what he does.   I would have kicked his ass to the curb  LONG LONG AGO and where are her parents??? how could a mother let a man treat her daughter like this?? I would never allow this, it just wouldn't happen.  Confused and angry in Canada

I don't understand how this poor girls mother hasn't stopped the abuse long before now.  I feel she is guilty too, just to a lesser degree.of the abuse this poor girl has endured.  How could they have not gone to the police to report the sexual abuse?? it's almost like this poor girl is reliving it all over again, hasn't she been thru enough?

I don't care if Raphael was raised at a boarding school, he's a 40 plus year old man now and he knows how to treat people.  I wonder if he treats his co workers and friends like this too???  He demands respect from his children, well, he should realize that you only get respect when you give respect.

I hope this family can heal and that this poor girl will be able to get the help she needs.  All men are not like this but until she heals this is all she will know.