I agree with Dr. Phil in that THE ONLY way for the cheated on wife to feel better is for her to know that her husband feels her pain. HOWEVER, Dr. Phil did not tell her how to go about making sure that he does understand. She will get over his cheating, and be able to move on ONLY after she takes him by total surprise and cheats on him. Once he finds out, she is to feel no guilt whatsoever. She is to just tell him "you did it to me, so I'm doing it to you. Pull up your boots and get over it". This way he becomes the one who is hurt and angry, and she is the one who can say "Oh, my cheating has done wonders for our marriage". This way, as recommended by Dr. Phil, he will feel and understand her pain. Two wrongs don't make a right, but it does, for sure, make it even.
