Messages By: zneubauer

My first husband was a lot like Michael.  I was constantly trying to lose weight and always ended up losing and then regaining   In the same sentence my husband would tell me "I love you the way you are, but isn't Cheryl Teiggs really cute."  I was constantly compared to top super models of the time.  I knew with my body type that I could never compare to them.  He would tell me he supported my efforts to lose weight, but would buy foods that I could not resist and ruin my diet.   My self-esteem was nonexistent.  I never felt worthy.  His comments amounted to emotional abuse, which it took many years for me to realize. 

  

I have since moved on.  My current husband has helped me regain confidence in myself. He truly loves me for who I am.  He supports me in getting fit, but has not ever said I need to lose weight.  I feel so appreciated and have learned to like myself again.   

  

Michael's wife needs to think of herself, not what he wants.  She will not be happy if she tries to lose weight to please him.   

My child (a minor) was being bullied at school.  Unfortunately he chose the wrong way to deal with it.  He resorted to making threats against the boy bullying him and blanket threats against others.  He was arrested, convicted and is working off his punishment.  Part of the consequence involves paying money which he is supposed to earn.  This has become a problem because of the gossip that arose from this incident.  The gossip came from the boy who was bullying him and his parents. My son's name has been spread through out our small community, and consequently he has been unable to get a job to pay off his debt.  The parents of the bully he threatened took this to the news and caused a lot of commotion.  The news of course did not look at both sides.  The school did not do anything to the bully, either.  This bully has gotten away with his crime which is not fair.  My child is paying for what he did, and I agree he should.  My question is how long should he have to pay!  Bullying caused this problem and continues to cause problems.  The news media continued the bullying with thier one sided reports.