Quote From: arthistI have to admit that I was very annoyed that Dr. Phil focused on what the husband needed to change to correct the situation and did not deal enough with the wife and what she needs to do to start changing. I'm in nearly the exactly same situation, but with the gender rolls reversed. My fiance has run up major credit card bills, hiding them from me sometimes for years, leaving us in a financial mess. We both work and bring in enough to handle our needs, but the debt is like an anchor around me neck, stressing me out. We are trying to put things back together, working on getting our communication flowing again, which I admit needs work, especially since everything was revealed seven months ago. While the poor communication and unbalanced relationship roles have contributed to his spending habits, there are a lot of internal problem that are also behind them from long before I came into the picture and, while briefly mentioned at the end of the segment, I feel this element of such behavior went untouched when I really would have appreciated some advice on this subject. My fiance is under going professional guidence with this problem, but I want to understand what I can do to help him and what he can do to strengthen his resolve.
I think Dr Phill focused more on the husband because the husband is the head of the family and he is not around enough to do his God given duty.
I think this is what happens when husbands leave all the responsiblities to the spouse with out giving any instruction.
If the man is the head and the wife is the helpmate. Then the man is responsible for telling his spouse what and how he wants her to do in order to help. He can also take care of the bills. There is such a thing called direct deposit and pay online. He could'nt have been that busy that he could not keep track of the money that his has made.
Women have so many things to do around a home. Why should we have to take care of the bills? Especially if we are not working. And if we are working our money should be our money. Come on the man wants to be king than run your kingdom.
