Messages By: efffy_

I am a 61 year old person who got married when I was 48.  I was never pretty or popular and didn't have much self esteem so I did not work out my life so that I could have a family.  My parents never thought I was worth much and neither did I. 
Anyway, after years of counselling, I did marry a wonderful man, but it was too late to have children.  People say it's never too late.  All I can say is NOT.  It was too  late and I missed the boat on that part of life which I will always feel that missed out on something really big.  But my point today is that I have friends who got pregnant, forced men to marry them and got the family and all the trappings that go along with it, but I do not respect them.  Even after you marry, if you trick your husband and get pregnant, I think that is unforgiveable.  How do these people live with themselves?  But they are fully accepted into society unlike singles like me who waited for the right person to come along.  I'm angry at all the mothers who are now divorced who got married for the wrong reasons but now have baby pictures of children and grandchildren to show everyone and brag about.  I just sit there and find it very wrong.  Anyway, am I the only person that thinks this way.  I certainly can't mention this to anyone because they will just tell me I'm jealous.  I couldn't live with myself if I trapped a man into fatherhood and marriage.  But as a result, I';ll never know what it's like to be a parent.  It sucks!!