Messages By: shivness

Hi, everyone, my name is ShaVaughnya and I'm new to the message boards. I'm 21 and I am unfortunately weighing in at 241. I recently had a baby but I gained a lot of the weight after my son was born three months ago. I picked up Dr. Phil's ultimate weight loss solutions and I love it but as we've all come to realize - bad habits die hard. I think at this point I need to do some re-evaluated. Honestly, I've gained the last 8 lbs since I've started reading the book- which is confusing and frustrating me. I have done the whole raid your house thing but I'vecome to realize I have no idea what is healthy or not because I come from a family of longtime junk food eaters. I buy the whole wheat bread and I eat a lot of raw vegetables and whatnot but it seems i still go wrong. I've begun to impliment little things into my day such as not going without a meal and using the stairs as opposed to the elevator. I realize that there is no way that I'm expending as many calories as I'm taking in and so I want to join a gym -Curves, actually, but finances may make that a little hard. I need some new menu options because I love my carbs and I know it's goin straight to my gut but I don't know very many substitutes and I get so tired of eating raw brocolli eveyr day. I need to be taking in 1600 calories or less and i'm not sure if i'm using those calories correctly. I'm drinking only diet soda, only whole grain wheat breads -if i eat breads at all, but my meal preparation is all wrong and i know it. Even the way I prepare my foods, the things I cook them in and so forth. I've began using my daughter's plates (she's almost 2) to control my portion size but what's a portion size if you're eating junk, right? maybe you guys cna help me out with this. Honestly, i'm beginning to feel despair. Like the book said, i've thrown away all my too big clothes, but now i'm bursting out of the seams so i'm gonna have to break down and buy new ones especially since i wear 'scrubs' all day 4 days a week. i'm embarassed to step back on my scale because two pounds are always added. i think i need to start all over again and this time do like Dr. Phil says and "Get real". I've never had a problem losing weight before. My freshmen year of college I was 237 and I got down to 165 (my then weight goal) in less than 4 moths. I realize that was exercise and I need to get back to it.

I'm so happy for you that you were able to find a way to incorporate exercise into your life. That's where I am in in my seven keys. I know that I have to make some real changes now because even with changing the things that I eat, I haven't been able to incorporate the exercise because of finances and just how my lifestyle is going right now. I'm in school from 8:30 to 2:30 then when I get home I have to deal with my kids, clean and cook. At school I've began to take the stairs as opposed to taking the elevator but it's only one floor. I called Curves and i have a discount coupon so maybe that will be managable. I know that without exercise i'm going to continue to gain. I'm decreasing my calorie intake to 1600 a day but i'm sure i don't even expend that many so without theexercise i'm still gonna continue to gain 2 pounds a week which what i've been doing -even while eating better.

my new thing is salmon because it's filling and it tastes so good! there's so much you can do with it, i'm just not that experienced with it. this sounds so good. my fiance makes sandwiches for me to take to school with lemon pepper and it is delicious. i can't wait to try this one. it sounds delicious! and please don't stop posting, i just started and  i need the help of someone like you who knows some things that i'm sure i don't. THANX. keep 'em coming

Hi, everybody, I started posting on the other site and then I realized that all the fun was happening over here so here I am. ((lol)). Lately, I have just abandoned everything. I can't seem to get off to the start that I need to. I feel like I don't know how to do THIS. I went to a great gym that i'd love to join but i don't think i can give the time or the money. I have two small children and my partner works 12 hours a day, by the time he gets home it's time for dinner and the kids have to go to bed. It's not fair to expect him to come home and do everything because i want to go workout. He doesn't even think anything's wrong with me. He says he likes the extra weight, but i can't STAND it. I am bigger than I've ever been- even during my 2 pregnancies. I have completely given up on my appearance all together which only increases the depression. It's like I feel as though I'm not smart enough to do the diet. It's like I can't figure out what is healthy and what is not. I've given up all regular sodas in lue of diet but when it comes to food, I know it's wrong. And regardless to it all, without exercise it's pointless. I'm just venting right now because it's like nobody supports me in my life. Sometimes I feel like my partner only likes me fat because he feels safe as long as I'm fat because when we met I was 80lbs thinner and i know he was more attracted to me. I asked him last night if he finds fat women attractive and he shook it off. I said would you date a fat woman and he said no, so i  asked then why do you find me attractive. He says because I'm not fat. Now, I know i don't look my size. I weight 233 (i lost 8 lbs) and i'm really tall but still i know rolls and sags DO NOT LOOK GOOD. What he doesn't realize, it's not about how I look, it's about how I feel. I'm about  to be 22 years old and i wear a size 20. I'm disgusted with myself. Shopping is depressing, eating is depressing. Everything is depressing. I need a complete overhaul! I ordered this thing on tv where i can do dance classes. I'm starting today. If I don't start burning calories- I'm gonna pull out my hair. And I'm starting the whole Seven Keys OVER. There.  

  

Sorry, just needed to get that off my chest.