Messages By: daniellesb

I am a 36 year old Black woman who is proud that God made me as I am. I am not a n**** and do not call anyone else (of any race) a n****. What bothers me most is when Blacks feel that the word can be used as a term of endearment. I DO NOT use it as a term of endearment or for any other purpose. It just boils my blood that Black people feel that we can use it as a substitute for "bro", "buddie", etc. Now, many of us know that the 'n' word stems back to a time in history when it was used in a demeaning way and had no underlying, nice message to it. If we are using the excuse that we are too young to know how it was used in the past, then it is up to us who know to teach the younger generations about the word AND to begin to discontinue the use of the word. If folks want to use it in their homes, I cannot tell them to do otherwise. But it is not okay for Blacks, White, Hispanics, Asians, or any other race to use. I wish we would lay this word to rest. I pray that we really open our eyes and QUIT talking about how it's okay to use amongst friends, QUIT thinking it's okay to use in rap because it's "how it is", and QUIT finding every angle to use it for good when we know that any way we use it will not change the historical meaning of the word which was used in a harming manner. It's time for us to be the intellects that we say we are and find other words to address our friends (or enemies). God allows us to make good or bad choices in life. Just know this...if we choose to make bad choices, including calling others the 'n' word,  He is not pleased by it.

I agree with most of what you have said. I  disagree with the comment regarding the "youth" of racism. Racism has existed for thousands of years; just read the Bible. Racism will begin to erode when all human beings begin to grow up and mature. Almost all of us have made a derogatory comment to or about someone of another race. When we can stop believing that any one race is better than another and stop using words expressing that belief, then we will then begin to chip away and eventually demolish racism.

 I would like to encourage you to do some research on the N word.  Who decided it was bad? When ANY word is used in a manner so as to demean and belittle another is enough to make a word bad. Yes, we all have some maturing and growing to do. I don't know if you are a Christian or not, but I would encourage you also to seek out what the Bible says about words and how WORDS do hurt and how words can cause people to get upset. It's not a matter of being immature, but a matter of having feelings and being offended when words are used toward another in a demeaning way.

 All races have their vices. After watching Dr. Phil, I turned to the History Channel that was reporting a story about the KKK. All races have interwarring. Let's be careful about what we say. Just like the Gov't "gives" housing, education & welfare to Blacks, the same benefits are extended to Whites, Asians, and other races. There are PEOPLE who squander, mistreat what they are given, and then ask for another handout...not just Black people. If you think Al Sharpton has breeded the use of the N word, then you are clearly unaware of his joint effort with NAACP in putting the N word to death. Gang violence, crime, and teen pregnancy extends through ALL races; however, we realize that the media picks and chooses WHO they report on. Many times it's in the neighborhoods of people of color when it occurs in even in what we consider to be the "best" neighborhoods.

 We can't go through a viciuos cycle of "when they stop, we'll stop." Someone must be the bigger person and stop. it sounds as if you may use the word because others use inappropriate terms for whites. Is this correct? I'd just like to say, we can't be moved by what others say as it begins with the person in the mirror. Once we stop using derogatory terms, then perhaps we can encourage someone else to do the same and then it will be a cycle of respecting each other.

What are you talking about? Who said that God hated anyone? If anyone says that, they are not telling the truth. God would never create anything or anyone that He did not love. However, God does not like it when ANYONE sins. And any of us, including myself, who live, do, say anything against His Word, are sinning. He becomes disappointed, but does not hate us. God will ALWAYS love the person, but may hate the act. Please be clear on this.