Messages By: feng456

Have 18 yr old daughter, she is a senior in high school, she works a part time job. All in All a pretty good kid, but here is the problem.  She always been hard to make take a bath, every since she was little, it would be fight every night. Well i got tired of fighting with her and well now she will go days and days without taking a bath. Now you can smell her or her room all over the house. She is responsible for washing her own clothes, i used to help her but she leave clothes laying all over the floor and i wasnt picking them up.  SO  now she just wears them dirty. :(

I came home from work last night and the chair she had been sitting in smell so bad.  I keep a very clean neat house.  

I am at a lose, What can i do.

PLEASE ANY ADVISE.

My husband and I recently purchased a puppy for our 12 year-old daughter for her birthday.  She loves animals and wanted a puppy since she was 5.  This was going to be her dog and her responsibility.

We paid several hundred dollars to purchase this dog and have paid several hundred more in vet bills, etc.  Our daughter likes the idea of having a dog, but is coming up short in the responsibility area (taking the dog out to potty, walks, feedings, etc).  My husband and I are doing most of the work.  We have threatened to find the dog a new home, and she will do a better job of taking care of the dog for a period of time, but it doesn't last.

I am tired of constantly reminding her to take care of her dog, having to argue that 5 minutes outside isn't enough time for the dog, etc. 

My question is... I would like to give my daughter a month to improve or find a new home for the dog.  Would getting rid of the dog be a bad move?  It was a birthday present and I know she likes having a dog... just not the "work" part of having a dog.  Any thoughts???

What  are fair and reasonable curfew guidlines for college children?  I have a 19 yr old female college student still living at home dependent on parents for financial support.  We also have two other children, one high school age and one middle school age.  The college student thinks she should be able to go and do as she pleases.  Staying out to 2am is "what normal college students do", these are her quotes not parents.  We feel that since she is living at home dependent on us for support,, we should make the rules on curfew and where she is going and with whom.  We want to be fair because after all times are alot different then when we attended college.  We are from a very conservative family.  We attend church regularly, eat meal together,etc,etc. We  do not like the bar scene and do not want our child to start this kind of lifestyle.  Where do we draw the line and what is fair to ask from her.  We don't want to be so rigid that she rebels.  Help!

you basically complied what I said, only tried to be 'neat and tidy' about it....lol

I'm sorry if I was not 'tact' whatever that implies, but I feel very angry about this issue, I refuse to be

"nice and tidy" about the point of what these potential adoptive parents do and act, I will not be politically correct about it, because I think it's the purest form of B.S I ever knew.  Just look at this board, at the posts of these people, they post like a 'want ad' for somebody's BABY, it is a human being, the person carrying the baby...is a human being....yet these people post and advertise like they are buying a car, or on that 'Craig's list'...my God......its the saddest thing I ever saw.

I am a firm believer in, if someone should feel shame and does not, I like to point out when they should.  And I cannot see how one does not feel shame in trying and persuading to take someone else's baby.  There are so many kids that need a home and need parents to love them, yet these possible parents would rather solicit, talk someone 'in-to', WAIT on a LIST..lol,(sorry that's funny) and take a baby within days of birth....like standing there just waiting for baby to pop in their arms.....it sickens me.

Once again babies grow up, they become kids/teenagers, getting them from birth does not change or stop this progression.  When you need to adopt (and yes fertile parents adopt as well and non-fertile) ...and a baby is not easy to get for you, nor in the near future, ask yourself what's the difference in the age of the child, you do want a child/family?

hehe...@tact,

Gina