Messages By: tautology

My boyfriend accepted a job a year ago that is many miles away with the result that we see each other only once a month or every other month for a long weekend.  He has always used the internet for pornographic sexual stimulation.  I do not object to this.  However, since he has been gone, his use has accelerated and his usage has been increasingly demanding with the result that he needs more sexually explicit scenes to stimulate him.  He can no longer attain and/or sustain an erection when he has sex with me.  He does state that he does not have that problem on the internet.  He does refuse to get high on the internet with me stating that it is a private experience. 

  

I now consider him to be addicted to the internet as he has to view it everyday.  Can his internet addiction be the cause of his impotence with me? 

My boyfriend accepted a job a year ago that is many miles away with the result that we see each other only once a month or every other month for a long weekend.  He has always used the internet for pornographic sexual stimulation.  I do not object to this.  However, since he has been gone, his use has accelerated and his usage has been increasingly demanding with the result that he needs more sexually explicit scenes to stimulate him.  He can no longer attain and/or sustain an erection when he has sex with me.  He does state that he does not have that problem on the internet.  He does refuse to get high on the internet with me stating that it is a private experience.  

   

I now consider him to be addicted to the internet as he has to view it everyday.  Can his internet addiction be the cause of his impotence with me?  

I enjoy sex very much and like to have it at least once a day.  I have been in a monogamous relationship with my boyfriend for over three years.  The problem is that most of our sexual energy goes into satisfying his desires:  he does not try to satisfy mine at all and he needs to "browse" via looking at other women to get stimulated.  I do not know what to do.  Any suggestions?

I have talked to him and he states that the usage of the images of other women is just necessary to him and that he just is not able to stimulate me.