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Messages By: psykiblue
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October 19, 2008, 2:10 pm PDT
 Quote From: sherylday OK, I am really getting tired of the MMO bashing. For you that don't know...that's MMORPG..Massive Multiplayer Online Role Playing Game.
I am almost 47. My husband is 25. We met and married in Everquest. We then met and married IRL over 4 years ago.
Sure, if you don't have any discipline it can get out of hand, like eating, drug abuse, or anything else...collecting things...I am sure if it exists there is someone out there addicted to it.
When I asked God to put someone in my life, I told him the only stipulation was THEY HAD TO PLAY THE GAME. We both still play the game, and we are very happy together.
I have heard the story about the guy who shot himself, and his mother found him with a room full of pizza boxes and an EQ loading screen...that guy's issues had nothing to do with Everquest. He had a garbage life and used EQ to run away...not the fault of the game..
There is a guy who plays WOW who has 36 accounts....so he can raid and play by himself, and does not have to socialize.. There is a thread on the bulletin board to the server I am on currently discussing whether or not he is the worlds biggest loser...serious gamers...calling this guy a loser...to each his own I say.
The woman you mentioned...Wendy...is the smart one. Any man who plays an MMO who does not have 2 computers and an extra account for their love interest is looking for trouble.
Yes, when I log in I am going to be in for a minimum of 6 hours, and I usually do 12, but I can be in the game, and my husband come home from work...nothing be done, supper not on yet, and I can look at him and say Baby! I leveled!...And he will say..YAY!!!!..Then he will shower, I will cook, we eat, and he goes and logs into his account. We play together a lot.
If your life is not compatible with the game you are playing, get another game. If your game is not compatible with your relationship, get your SO an account.
Either way, get responsible for your own life, and quit blaming the game.
Sheryl
First all, gaming addiction is a serious and real problem despite how many of the addicts deny it. Sheryl, I feel sorry for you, you and your husband feed each other and your addictions. Of you course neither of you have an issue with gaming, you're too busy in the virtual world to notice any problems what so ever. So what would happen if husband quit and left you in the game all alone? You'd divorce them b/c they didn't have your addiction anymore? Give me a break, you're living an unhealthy life, and so is your husband. But good luck when real world comes crashing down as it will eventually. Obviously the reason your relationship works so well is that your emotional maturity is right on par with his 25 year old emotional maturity so it works out, but when he grows up, look out it might not be a match made in heaven anymore or EQ :) As for having 36 accounts, or killing yourself, yes obviously that has nothing to do with gaming itself, anyone will say that gaming masks symptoms and that it covers for a lot. However the spouses here who want attention don't want to play a game. They want the bills paid on time, kids time spent outside/doing activities/chores to be done and not have to do it all themselves. Of course you wouldn't understand this b/c your husband feeds on your addiction/gaming just as you feed on his. They want to spend time doing things with their S.O's that doesn't involve a computer. Oh by the way, I game, my husband games, except I manage to have dinner ready, and we spend more time together offline then online, I guess we like having a solid marriage, but it wasn't always that way. When we were dating he'd play 12 hours a day sometimes less and then 12-16 hours on the weekend. A definite problem, a lot of it had to do with how unhappy he was in the current place he was living and fed up with his situation. Its all about BALANCE. However it doesn't mean that I liked his playing excessively, and that the broken promises didn't total up after awhile, it just means that I was willing to work through it and I got lucky, so was he. Many widows don't have the luxury. So tired of having gamers defend their actions and trying to shift blame from themselves to others, or whatever. Yes most widows know its not the game, a lot of gamers can game responsibility. In the end its all about balance, and obviously woman/men who are in these situations feel pain and overwhelming anguish sometimes. However their so emotionally hurt that all they can see is the game and how much they hate it, it saves their sanity sometimes and their marriage. Because they sometimes can work it out and fix it, and sometimes when that hate gets transferred to the gamers its hello divorce, Goodbye, Piccadilly. Farewell, Leicester bloody Square. Fear not though widows, GW is a safe place, to talk to people that have been in your situation, we welcome exgamers, gamers, and widow(er)s. www.gamerwidow.com |
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