Messages By: zuzubird

I agree with those knowledgeable ladies who understand that a person is born with her sexual orientation, and should never be cast out or made to suffer because of it, any more than a heterosexual person should be.  It is not a choice; I know I did not choose to be heterosexual--I just turned out that way.  If a young child displays some gender confusion, we must lay off the God trips and accept the child for who she is at all stages of her life (or his, as the case may be).  The idea that God hates certain persons and loves others is a human idiosyncrasy, and it's wrong to frighten a youngster with this stuff. 

A lot of times when I see a really huge adult, I think that there may have been sex abuse in childhood.   I don't know if there's a connection there or not, but there could be.  In any case, a child who eats and eats and eats is probably compensating for unmet needs.  The parents need to educate themselves and then do what needs to be done to help the child.  (And it isn't only the mother's problem . . .)