It is all confusing and I don't know that anyone has the answers. I do think you need to be careful with kids so young. Steer them the way they 'appear' to be lovingly and time will tell.
I can say that I had a son we suspected as being gay but we were ignorant, condemned such things in front of him. To make a long story short, he died at 36, having a great career, of a drug overdose. Found he lived two lives. The one for the person he really was and the other as a show of who he thought everyone thought he should be. The drugs were from the pain he lived with and his parents were the cause of most of it. We learned too late. Why would anyone choose to 'want' to be gay. I now understand and am active in a local PFLAG chapter.
