Messages By: maplemama

 I don't know Scott but it appears to me he is someone who cares what others think of him and would perfer if the public would just leave this case alone and forget what he did to  Laci and Conner. Maybe I'm just taking my experience with a ex-boyfriend who mentally and phiscally abused me to shape this opionion of mine. To me Scott is a coward, but that is beside the point.

 These juriors put their lives on hold to give Laci, Conner, her family and friends the justice they so richly deserve. I would hope they woud want to hear how the juriors are feeling and help them to deal with their terrible ordeal.

 I was having a terrible time with my girls ages (2,5,7 at the time) and I was thinking of trying to apply Dr Phil's wisdom about privileges/punishments with them, when I came up with this idea.

  Every privilege my girls have in our house was written down on a piece of paper and drawn for the little ones. I cut them out and stuck Velcro on the back. Then I made two column Today and tomorrow.  When ever the girls misbehaved they would have to go over and take one of their privileges and put it on the can't have today section. If they already had something like Ice cream which they were only allowed to have once a day and that's what they pick then it would go on the tomorrow list. It sounds like it wouldn't work but it does. if the girls refuse to pick a privilege then I would warn them " you don't want mommy to pick because I'll pick a good one."

 I chose to pick a apple as a privilege more as a warning then anything, because it's always the first to go, but don't worry the fridge is full of other fruit and veggies.

 I find that this gives kids a visual of what they could lose if they don't stop misbehaving. And they start working for the things they want to keep. I don't know if I've explain this too well so below is a example of my chart at home.

privileges                |   Can't have today                 |  Can't have tomorrow.

apple                                                                                       Note: if the privilege is in the tomorrow

ice cream (only allowed to have 1 serving daily)                       list when tomorrow comes I

juice (only allowed to have 2 juice boxes a day)                        switch the privilege to the today

milk                                                                                                      list then take the privilege off the  

cookies(only allowed to have 3 a day)                                           privilege list for that day. This way

t.v                                                                                                            they cannot keep putting off the

computer                                                                                               privileges until the next day.

x-box

story time

friends over

over to friends

playing outside

playing with the dogs.

        Another thing that really works in my house is having my girls pick up their toys and doing chores for computer time. I hand each one a bag and say if you fill this bag full of toys you can have 15 minutes of computer time and they do. If you make your bed and pick up your clothes you may have another 15 minutes on the computer. If you don' have a computer then set aside play time with them. one thing I have learned as a parent is kid will do anything to have you play with them.

 I don't know why you replied to my reply but just to set the record stright I don't care about him. I was just trying to state that when the public talks about this case they are not giving Scott attention in a good way rather they are reminding him of what he did and that it will never be forgotten.

 I care that this woman and her child was murdered and I think that there should have been coverage on her and Conner. I also care about all the other women and their children that are murdered each year. I know that right around the time Laci died a beautiful African -American lady was murder also and there was no coverage on her death. What a shame that the media does seem to chose white middle class people in the news coverage. This lady was just as beautiful and her life was worth just as much as Laci's and it is ashame that I don't even remember her name. I think what happen with Lacii and Conner case was that it is hard for people, especially woman to understand how someone could kill a pregnant lady who was so far along in her pregnancy.

   I am a mother of 3 beautiful girls and it pains me to hear how people treated Anna all her life. While it may seem like some of them were being kind to her they really were not. Instead of helping her they hindered her. We forget that she use to be a child and just because she had a grown up body and knew the ways of Adults doesn't mean her emotional growth was that of a adult but was rather studded as a preteen's...maybe.

   I will be watching this show so that I may learn something that I can take with me to help me as I raise my girls.

  When I think of Anna Nicole, I don't think of of all the things she did in front of the camera,but I wonder what her self worth and her inner beauty was. WE all have it, we just need to let it shine.

 When or if you are going to watch the show try to see this, if you can you have just became more beautiful yourself!

  First I want to say that I 100% agree that his behaviour towards his wife is wrong. And that I have never gone to those lengths with my husband, but I do understand a little of what he is going through.

  3 years ago I went on an anti-depression drug to help me with my anxiety and fearful behaviour. I was so scared that my husband was cheating on me that I went through every thing of his. I demanded he come home from work at a certain time I refuse to let him hang out with his friends I questioned him about every receit in his pocket. I listen on his phone calls and sometimes even went on job sites with him because I didn't think he was really working.

 Besides my insecurity it was my anxiety that lead me to do all this because when I did I felt better. My fear lead to anxiety which lead to depression which also lead to anger and every day I was also verbually abusing him.

 I finally went to my doctor because I relized one day how it was affecting my kids.

  I hope he will change. I know what life is like now its great and free and Ive never been happier...................