My perception is that there is never a "right way" and "wrong way" to do or say things.
Everything in life is a negotiation and should be conducted in that manner, at all times, be it your spouse, your boss, your co-workers, your business connections, etc.
Actions should "always" speak louder than words. Act in an appropriate manner. Use common sense. Be true to yourself and your values and talk things over without being judgmental, abusive, angry, hurtful, resentful, etc. If a negotiotion becomes abusive or threatening, walk away - cool down - and talk things out later when both parties have had a chance to think and come up with some solutions. There - that's a good way of solving "right vs wrong" issues. Come up with a solution (even if it is in the cool down time) to whatever sitation you are confronted with, hopefully in a calm manner.
If issues are forced and you are not allowed your opinion or are "forced" to abide by "their" rules, then you have to make a choice of whether or not you can live with the choices that have been made by the other person.
Once again - everything should be a negotiation, in just about everything that you do, in life.
Negotiations and decisions. Don't you negotiate decisions? Is this a right vs wrong decision? You can even "argue" with yourself!
Kathy in Oregon
